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School Refusal

My son is 16 in his final year at school but will not go. Has no confidence but is aggressive at home. Will not get a part time job even though we give him no money. GP says all we can do is weather the storm and hope he comes to his senses! We do keep talking to him and keeping calm.

Any ideas?



Hi E.,

Here's some info on school refusal: CLICK HERE

"Talking to him" is a traditional parenting strategy that is having little effect (as you are finding out).

This is what I do with my adolescent clients who refuse to go to school: I either get them enrolled in Options (which is a small alternative school; they get a lot of one-on-one attention; lessons are mostly done on the computer; the class room is much smaller than those in regular school), or they start on their GED (General Education Degree; the equivalent of a high school diploma).

My adolescent clients do absolutely terrible in regular school, but do remarkably well in an alternative setting.


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