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No Half Measures

Don't "half-ass" your parenting plan!

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Anonymous said...

Hi Mr. Hutten:

I am writing because I am wondering if you think that your program will work for me and my son, who are in a somewhat unique situation. I am a single, working woman and the foster parent for a 17-year-old boy, who is highly oppositional. He has a history of abuse, neglect, and multiple (13!) foster care placements over the past four years, including residential treatment centers, psychiatric hospitals, and juvenile detention. He is refusing to participate in any services, and so is not receiving therapy or any other supports at this time. He is on probation for a crime (burglary) that he committed when he was 14 years old, but is not following the conditions of probation, and so has been violated; however, his probation officer has told me that his court date will not arrive for another couple of months and he likely will NOT be incarcerated as he has not been re-arrested. My main concerns are that he is smoking marijuana and refusing to follow curfew; he also tantrums if he doesn't get his way, spends most of his time outside in the streets instead of at home, and can become verbally aggressive and threatening if I don't give him what he wants. I know that he has significant emotional problems due to his history. I am not sure if your program is the right one to use for a teen with his experiences of abuse, neglect, abandonment, and unstable living situations. And, I don't want to start and stop something, or use any half-measures, like you say. What are your thoughts?

Thank you,


Mark said...

Seems like most parents think they have a "unique situation."

Actually this is more "typical" than "unique"...

..yes, I'm sure the program will work for you!



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