tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post3016005164153018011..comments2024-01-28T07:29:31.518-08:00Comments on ONLINE PARENTING COACH: How to Deal with Grounding Problems Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-86874705776075427132021-12-29T10:58:56.299-08:002021-12-29T10:58:56.299-08:00There is a thing that parents do often when they a...There is a thing that parents do often when they are frustrated with their child and that is what we call Counter-control. They will pile on the consequences, i.e.,extra days of grounding, hoping that the child will comply. This approach only emboldens a defiant child, and this becomes a vicious cycle that you can not get out of. <br />1.Try grounding the child for the behavior at hand. <br />2.Ignore any additional attempts to bait you into an argument. Set the limit and walk away. I know this may be hard to do at times but you are not giving the child a target to continue to attack. <br />3.Avoid piling on more days of grounding. Followup/Followthrough with the initial grounding. Only add an additional consequence for a new behavior. <br />4.Also, some consequences may lose their effect overtime if the benefit to the child is greater that the benefit to not to engage in the problem behavior. There is a phrase that says, never wrestle with a pig in the mud. Sooner or later you realize the pig is enjoying it.<br />5.Make a list of alternative consequences that you feel may be effective with the chid and try them out.<br />6.Finally, make a list of positive rewards you can present to your child that he/she can earn for not arguing with the adults. Present the positive reward when the child displays the positive behavior. When we argue with the child, we are indirectly teaching them how to handle conflict. Also remember, it takes two to argue!<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18033108347127369069noreply@blogger.com