tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post3981331181066313863..comments2024-03-15T06:08:01.707-07:00Comments on ONLINE PARENTING COACH: Disruptive Behavior DisordersUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-41964535378220612542011-01-23T10:37:59.413-08:002011-01-23T10:37:59.413-08:00I’ve recently started a blog, the information you ...I’ve recently started a blog, the information you provide on this site has helped me tremendously. Thank you for all of your time & work.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-39297409735694674482010-12-30T20:55:51.253-08:002010-12-30T20:55:51.253-08:00I have a 13 year old son who has been diagnosed wi...I have a 13 year old son who has been diagnosed with ADHD, PDD, OCD, Aspergers, autism, schizophrenia, bi-polar, and sexually molested by his blood daddy. i have been in the middle of a divorce for nearly 4 years with no child support, and visitation every time week. <br /> My son has a 12 year old sister who he beats up on regularly. She can hardly stand for me to be out of her sight. He has hit his grandfather with a pogo stick. He has hit me. The only "people" in our family he doesn't hurt are the four dogs.<br /> My son has been on every medication in the book. We only have Tenncare, no decent insurance. Youth Villages runs the intake on Tenncare, and they keep children out of the hospital so they don't have to pay for it. <br /> My son needs to be in a residential facility so that his medication can be properly adjusted without seeing his filthy daddy. To top it all of he has continual bowel accidents. The kids at his public school are starting to talk about him. The worst part is that he will not even admit that he needs to change his diaper. The odor is about to kill us. We have had to call the police out to our home many times to get him to mind.<br /> I am trying to get him in Laurel Heights in Atlanta, GA. It is the closest place that I can find for a decent residential treatment. I am in a court battle with Tenncare right now to get this approved.<br /> Can you tell me if there is a possible surgery for my son. I have had a cingulotomy, but I am not sure that this is the right surgery for him. I doubt it.<br /> One of our neurologist stated that something was not connected in his brain. I read that it is reconnected to itself, whatever it is. This means that he is in a loop. He is on a 3rd grade reading level, 4th grade math level, and writes like a first grader. How is he going to make it in this horrible world? Please God help me somehow!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-66114635979753246182010-12-21T14:11:39.722-08:002010-12-21T14:11:39.722-08:00Nice site, nice and easy on the eyes and great con...Nice site, nice and easy on the eyes and great content too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-35601163269667768532010-12-10T21:55:17.568-08:002010-12-10T21:55:17.568-08:00Keep posting stuff like this i really like itKeep posting stuff like this i really like itAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-3078018402268353752010-11-28T06:56:54.257-08:002010-11-28T06:56:54.257-08:00My son said he was going to sleep at around 11:00 ...My son said he was going to sleep at around 11:00 Thursday. My husband and I were out till 1:30. When we came home he was not in his room. We called him on his cell phone and he said he was at the mall with his friends for black Friday. My husband demanded that he get home immediately. Not long after this he was home. We made it clear this was unacceptable, and we went to sleep so we could discuss the consequences in the morning. My husband was going to take him to our beach apartment for the weekend to get him alone and discuss what happened. In the morning my husband woke him up with difficulty, they had an altercation and my husband got angry and told him to pack his bags, he didn't live here anymore. I did not know this, and when I went to his room he was gone. Later that evening he texted me and said he was at a friends house and he was safe.<br /> <br />The running away was Friday morning, this is Saturday afternoon. I have been in contact with him by phone and text, but he does not want to come home as long as my husband is here. They do not have a great relationship and my husband is at times the aggressive type, I am more the opposite, passive. My son does not want to get into a fight and feels he cannot deal with him. He said he will come back when my husband leaves on Sunday to go away to work.<br /> <br />I know he has to have consequences such as grounding, but how to you suggest I do this the right way. My son was recently diagnosed with ODD and ADHD. He has not gotten into any major problems like drugs, alcohol or stealing, but breaks curfews and other common issues.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-84190993012677821372010-11-17T05:21:25.244-08:002010-11-17T05:21:25.244-08:00Our dilemma is that this young man is very intelli...Our dilemma is that this young man is very intelligent and at almost 16 years old, there remains only about 25 months in which to influence his thinking so that he will function as a responsible adult. If we are unable to achieve this, we fear that within the following 5 years, he will be located in one of the prison units here in Huntsville. <br /><br />So far, his current foster parents and everyone who has attempted to supervise him have failed to achieve meaningful behavior improvement. There have been periodic brief periods when he appears to be “straightening up” or his attention has been achieved only to be disappointed with a return to his rebellious behavior, the high emotionally charged discussions and ultimately a feeling of failure about what had been achieved. He certainly has some good attributes (responsive in one moment for a short while but can change 180 degrees a short time later, appearing cooperative for a brief period but again complete change within one day) and it certainly is worth the effort to try to influence him at this critical period. He is so smart that everyone who tries to influence him winds up feeling about one step behind him and we have committed to see if we can gather some guidance for his foster parents to give them some insight into how to effectively deal with him. <br /><br />The young man is a 15 year old who is under CPS supervision. He was “raised” by his alcoholic grandfather for about 12 or 13 years and then went under CPS supervision when he reported that his grandfather had threatened him with a hammer. After that he was enthusiastically adopted by a family but that relationship lasted only about a year because of their inability to supervise him. They brought him back to CPS in a complete state of having failed. Following that, he was placed in two residences which again became short term because of his attitude and behavior. Most recently, his uncle and aunt by recent marriage (8 months) have taken responsibility for him. Up to the time that he was placed with his uncle and aunt, his uncle believed that all the “bad” reports about his behavior were not the boys fault but since he has been living with them for about 2 months the uncle has acknowledged that he is convinced that the young man is his own worst enemy and that his behavior has caused all the problems over the past 2 – 3 years. The aunt and uncle contacted us about some of their concerns, which I describe below, about 10 days ago and at the end of that conversation, I put forward the thought that the things the young man was doing probably fell into a behavior type and if we understood that, we might get some insight into how to more effectively supervise him. I committed to investigate that thought and thus the request to this request to you. The behavior that we have observed and been told about would include:<br /><br />• Lack of respect for authority<br />• Lack of appreciation for help extended (i.e., no feeling of obligation to reciprocate when he is extended some gracious act)<br />• Broken promises<br />• Egotistical (believes he know everything)<br />• Lying and fabrication of facts<br />• Incredible ability to outthink anyone who is trying to supervise or help him<br />• Very fixed opinions (i.e. what he wants to do and what is good for him)<br />• Manipulative<br />• When criticized he can become loud, angry and often will leave the room and even the propertyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-59443484634727015802010-11-17T05:19:11.230-08:002010-11-17T05:19:11.230-08:00We are having counselling and have read untold par...We are having counselling and have read untold parenting books and tried to be positive and remain calm and be able to think through these situations rationally - as he obviously is not when he gets to this stage! We are now in CRISIS stage.<br /> <br />We obviously have been sent Cameron to teach us a major lesson in our lifetime! <br /> <br />We will keep on working it through - and fingers crossed we will retain ours and his sanity through this dreadful time in our lives!<br /> <br />If anything - I will write a book on this and be able to share our lessons with those in need.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-91907135424193644282010-11-15T06:07:58.508-08:002010-11-15T06:07:58.508-08:00I am a single mom, and I have 3 kids, but having a...I am a single mom, and I have 3 kids, but having a lot of problems with my middle 14yr old son. Very aggressive, abusive language, physical with his siblings and me and gets a lot of support/guidance from his Dad to treat me like dirt, and not be scared of law or any kind of rules. He has been constantly fed negative Behaviour as his dad demonstrates criticizing others, making fun of people anywhere/everywhere, picking fights with other people driving on the road, letting him drive his pick up truck around town, and swearing/abusive language and being angry all the time and very controlling. I separated from that man 5 years ago but like I said over time my son has come to just hate me, disrespects me although I want him to be happy and successful, and not step in the footsteps of his father. His father is a big influence on my son and everything positive I try to do is put down immediately, and the father saying that who is she to tell you what to do. So my son has absolutely no respect for me or women in general or even his brothers or uncles or anyone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-70747811891810652232010-11-08T05:41:59.700-08:002010-11-08T05:41:59.700-08:00I have just found your site and would like some mo...I have just found your site and would like some more information. I live in Australia and have two teenage girls (15 and 13) who have been engaging in high risk Behaviour for some time - more than 12 months. I have had them on a live in residential Behaviour camp, attending counsellors and the risk of being 'kicked out' of home - all to no avail. They are stealing, not attending school, drinking etc etc.....<br /> <br />Part of me is hopeful that your works may assist, however I also think that their Behaviour may be ingrained and will require them to hit that point where they don't agree with their Behaviour anymore - rather than me trying different things to reach them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-44404611109430418892010-11-08T05:40:15.371-08:002010-11-08T05:40:15.371-08:00Hi,
I have heard of your program before. I am no...Hi,<br /><br />I have heard of your program before. I am not sure why I haven't pursued it earlier, but here I am now. My son Bryan was recently diagnosed ODD (he is also OCD and suffers from anxiety/panic disorders). Bryan has been given several diagnosis' over his 17 years in our lives. ADD, ADHD, dysthemia, to name a few. I have gone to dr.'s, specialists, psychologists, psychiatrists, etc. No one ever "got" Bryan...they listened and tried therapy that went along with the latest diagnosis...but here we are at 17...same Bryan.<br /><br />I am frustrated that this is where we are when I have been his advocate all his life and have question odd in his early years. I suppose the good news is, we have a diagnosis, he is going to be receiving treatment and that there is still time to help him grow into a healthy, happy adult.<br /><br />I read the details of what you describe odd as, that is Bryan to a "T". He is argumentative, defiant, moody, emotional, angry, and acts entitled with NO accountability for his actions. We as parents are to blame for his failures, our failures, when the sun isn't out, when the dog barks, and often for anything else that is not in his control.<br /><br />I am thrilled to see that so many have benefited from your program!<br /> <br />KimAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com