tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post4868237949277584587..comments2011-11-25T05:48:43.932-08:00OPS, LLChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10143414720553831694noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-86622608468684496762011-11-25T05:48:43.932-08:002011-11-25T05:48:43.932-08:00Presently my son is home, now unemployed and is hanging around with drug taking teenagers and older people. He doesn&#39;t have the money to do drugs but I know in the recent past he drank heavily and smoked pot. He was making progress when he worked as an apprentice mechanic. I believe he has a personality disorder or bi polar but who knows as he refuses to seek help. In the last 3 weeks he has deteriorated - threatened me, his brother and broke a window to gain access when locked out during the day. It is never his fault, he has an excuse for all and is very manipulative. He told people when he ran away I was violent. I am being calm but trying to be assertive. He grew up with boundaries, rewards and lots of love and encouragement. He has changed completely. I have 2 siblings with depression. He doesn&#39;t act depressed but is always trying to be cool , act and look cool. His behavior is very infantile in many ways We have offered incentives - put money with his money to acquire a car/motorbike. Now he has stopped working I have offered chores for money to stop him turning to crime. He wanted me to pick him up at 2am this morning. I agreed even though he had said he was sleeping over but when he asked for his new girl friend to stay I said no and when asked why explained that she was present during the break-in. i have taken him to court 3 days ago to get a warning from the court to stop the damage (holes in walls) in his room. I am at my wits end. My husband wants to kick him out and this is affecting our relationship. His younger brother was sent a text last night when i refused to bring girlfriend back (said him only - he declined) stating &quot;tell mum I am doing heroin&quot;.<br /> <br />Any suggestions?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-23904083455899469632011-11-22T06:17:25.905-08:002011-11-22T06:17:25.905-08:00Hello Mark,<br /> <br />I just wanted to tell you that your on-line newsletters have become a central part of my husband and I being able to deal with situations have recently come our way w/our son who has Asperger&#39;s Syndrome/just being a teen. How &#39;timely&#39; they have been has given me a good laugh! I&#39;m just so thankful for your insight &amp; counsel and wanted to let you know your work is much appreciated! I wish for you a peaceful/relaxing and blessed Thanksgiving Holiday!<br /> <br />Regards,<br />LisaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com