tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post512321346783424042..comments2011-03-08T07:34:40.928-08:00OPS, LLChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10143414720553831694noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-71356229547774808692011-03-08T07:34:40.928-08:002011-03-08T07:34:40.928-08:00I have unfortunately overindulged my son. He is 15. I am a single mother. He has a TV, computer, and X-box in his room. When I try to remove one or all of these favorite things from his room as consequences my son becomes physically aggressive with me or he goes into my office in the home and removes my computer and other belongings of mine. The attempt at removal becomes very escalated. When I try to remove the TV or computer or X-box when my son is gone, the escalation occurs when he comes home. Same scenario-he gets physically aggressive or removes my belongings or trashes my bedroom. When I say physically aggressive I mean he postures, gets in my face, yells and cusses, follows me around and puts his body up against me so that I cannot walk anywhere without him being right against me and in my face, he positions himself so that I cannot walk away, and at times he will push me out of his room when I am trying to remove a possession. He has not hit me or choked me or done anything directly assaultive. He is stronger than I am. I do not want to escalate the physical aggression by pushing back or continuing the removal of the possessions when it escalates to this extent. I have threatened and have at times shut off the electrical power to his room as a way to remove the use of these possessions. I then put a lock on the fuse box so he cannot turn the power back on. This of course does not stop him from retaliating by removing my possessions or trashing my room. He also insists that the possessions are his because he got them as gifts or he earned them with money I gave him for doing chores or for getting good grades and that I cannot take the possessions away. I tell him that if the possessions were given to him or earned by him they are still in my house and subject to removal as consequences. <br /><br /> <br /><br />What complicates the scenario is that my son&#39;s father is not supportive of me at all. We have been in a high conflict child custody situation for years. We are now involved in a court hearing regarding modification of parenting time. The father uses every conflict I have with my son against me in court. The father tells my son how unfair I am and how poorly I handle the conflicts and the discipline. My son lives primarily with me and does not want to spend more time with his father nor does he want to live with his father. Unfortunately, I think spending more time with the father would be detrimental to my son even though it would be a relief for me so I do not think it is best to pursue my son spending more time with his father or threaten this as a consequence.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com