tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post6124430644551730982..comments2024-01-28T07:29:31.518-08:00Comments on ONLINE PARENTING COACH: How To Stop Your Teen From Sneaking Out At NightUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-69859605357087630702022-07-30T18:38:37.780-07:002022-07-30T18:38:37.780-07:00Our daughter is 16 and was sneaking out at night u...Our daughter is 16 and was sneaking out at night untill i read the post about the 15 year old who was sneaking out at night and her parentsw forced her to wear cloth diapers and rubberpants to bed everynight and that stopped it.We got her diapers and rubberpants also and made her wear them to bed every night and the sneaking out stopped! She has to also wear them for special occasions and holidays when ever she is going to be around teen boys.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-50768663123554505452022-03-26T17:19:25.067-07:002022-03-26T17:19:25.067-07:00I’m at my wits end. My 16 year old grandson has li...I’m at my wits end. My 16 year old grandson has lived with me basically forever. We’ve always been very close, and although small things have popped up over the years we have always worked it out and have been very close. Recently an older girl with a bad reputation and questionable behaviour patterns moved to town from a big city and has come into our world. He has always been mature and respected in the community with his personable skills, good marks and musical talent. That changed quickly to sneaking out at night, taking my car with no license or insurance at night, constant lying and letting his music go down the drain. We were looking at some serious music scholarships for university - he is in grade 11. This is now the second weekend he just walks out to go spend the weekend with this girl, who has apparently been kicked out of her father’s house, and is staying at her friends parents apartment in a building that is perceived as containing drugs and no supervision. She creates extreme drama wherever she goes. I’m on my own. His mother lives 12 hours away. My parents are both gone. I have no support. I don’t know how to deal with this. I had paid for driver’s Ed and was going to sign for him to get his license early and try to help with a car. That’s off the table and he doesn’t seem to care. He’s started smoking cigarettes so I told him he could pay for his cell phone bill if he could afford cigarettes. He works part time. If he quits I will continue to pay bill. I’m self employed and $$ is tight. I don’t have a data plan myself. I don’t know what other consequences I could use. I’m desperately searching for advice…Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-17791534718241984592020-08-22T16:53:23.337-07:002020-08-22T16:53:23.337-07:00My daughter done it 2 times last tome cops got her...My daughter done it 2 times last tome cops got her now I'm dealing with her sneaking people in help please I loose sleep staying up I'm a single parentAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15856172956624292978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-51733738218607346092019-10-01T06:36:45.535-07:002019-10-01T06:36:45.535-07:00I have a 13 year old the keeps sneaking out of the...I have a 13 year old the keeps sneaking out of the house to hang out with 18 to 20 year olds I put alarms on the doors but still does it I want to screw to windows down but afraid that if a fire would happen I called these kids to stop with my daughter they cussed me out and everything I have her sleeping in my room I have taken everything from her she has even already had sex with this 16 year old I am so lost I dont know what to do anymore I wish there was a camp I can send her to to fix this Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03763899426739332838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-46441479960512435752019-06-17T19:15:42.713-07:002019-06-17T19:15:42.713-07:00Ok Parents, I too have been going through this wit...Ok Parents, I too have been going through this with my 15 yr. Old daughter. I got fed up as of Sunday. <br />Since then.....<br />I have called ADT to install a full security system. I get notified for movement in the house, i get notified when ANY window or door opens, and i also put a surveillance camera in the corner of her room. <br />I have taken her cell phone, computer, wifi, television and gaming system. <br />Now all she has is an AM/FM radio and can write in a journal that I have promised not to read. <br />She is not permitted to hang out with her friends unless an adult is present and approved by me or my husband. <br />Always remember, YOU ARE NOT THEIR BEST FRIEND, YOU ARE THE PARENT. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-79334038372626679072019-04-06T23:51:21.832-07:002019-04-06T23:51:21.832-07:00Our 15 year-old daughter snuck out and I caught he...Our 15 year-old daughter snuck out and I caught her via the cat meowing at the basement guest room door. She removed the window screen, climbed out the window well, and went off with her friends. Since then, I do "night watch" and my husband handles the "day shift." Our oldest teen seems to think since we bought a car for her to drive, that it is hers and she can come and go as she pleases! Uh, NO! We had a big row with her about his matter tonight and I had to remove the rear license plate of said car until she agreed it is not HER car and she is under our roof, thus, under our rules!<br /><br />Parenting these days feels like an endlessly 24/7 job and we parents are subjected to the crap of it daily, it seems!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08977221084358950665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-55070887685032162572019-01-25T07:39:44.017-08:002019-01-25T07:39:44.017-08:00When our daughter was 15,she was sneaking out at n...When our daughter was 15,she was sneaking out at night quite often to be with her friends and boys.We tried everything to punish her,but to no avail!One day i was at a friends house visiting her,who has a mentally retarded 17 year old daughter who is in diapers 24/7.I was telling my friend about how the daughter is sneaking out at night and the punishments we have used on her dont work!As we were talking,she had to change her daughters diapers and i watched her pin the dry cloth diapers on her then put the adult size rubberpants back on over them.I told her how much her daughter looked like a baby and she me that the cloth diapers and rubberpants work well.She then told me that maybe the cloth diapers and rubberpants would work on my daughter as punishment and to prevent her from sneaking out.She then gave me several cloth diapers,diaper pins,and three pair of rubberpants and i took them home.That evening after supper,dad and i went to her room and i brought out the diapers and rubberpants and told her she has to wear them to bed and as punishment.Dad threatned her with his belt if she didnt comply,so she laid on her bed and i pinned the diapers on her,then put the rubberpants on over them.She was quite embarrassed,but making her wear them to bed every night prevented her from sneaking out any more!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-73284144566468919222018-11-21T10:16:08.246-08:002018-11-21T10:16:08.246-08:00Do things that he wants to to or is interested in....Do things that he wants to to or is interested in. For me it sometimes means watching a series on Netflix that he likes (even though I don't!), or listening to the music he likes to right (even though it's not my style) or playing a video game with him the he likes..that sort or thing. That way he knows you are interested in him and you are maybe willing to do things that you don't love to do, just to spend time with him because your relationship is that important to you!jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03229143902617229823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-19127433071028179342018-07-20T07:54:34.336-07:002018-07-20T07:54:34.336-07:00What are 'cool things' to do? I have tried...What are 'cool things' to do? I have tried providing opportunities for my 14 year old, swimming, fencing, archery, cinema, football, rugby, games nights etc he has no interest in anything no hobbies other than hanging with friends that are leading him down a dark road.Hayleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07917704100801209133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-61829335712947155622018-06-18T02:40:03.389-07:002018-06-18T02:40:03.389-07:00I have caught my 14 year old boy sneaking out and ...I have caught my 14 year old boy sneaking out and drinking, the police even got involved the last time. We have to even go to court. I honestly dont feel like he gives a shot. I took his phone away and activites. Today is the last day of school so now I dont know what to do with him over the summer.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05503828247911307030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-28704931432477399492018-05-12T17:55:37.281-07:002018-05-12T17:55:37.281-07:00It's a selfish act to disappear at night, pare...It's a selfish act to disappear at night, parents aren't that bad so I think teenagers should grow up and face life without leaving house at night because only trouble will come of it. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10862842667515122561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-81062735552994061182018-03-10T12:12:35.404-08:002018-03-10T12:12:35.404-08:00So often as parents we are just beginning to figur...So often as parents we are just beginning to figure out how to handle the current stage of our children's lives, and then they begin the next stage that completely changes the rules we found success with.<br /><br />Parents, remember that teen 'children' are young adults. In these teenage years, we are attempting to train them to be independent and think for themselves. Yes, we have a few certain 'house rules' that are not negotiable, but they sometimes need the latitude to see for themselves the good or bad that results from their actions. <br /><br />Reflect and ask yourself, 'do I speak AT my teen, or do I speak WITH my teen?'. Do you speak with them with the respect that you would your neighbor or an acquaintance? If you speak with them in the tone that you are the dictator and they have no input then think about how would you fair under such authority. This is a difficult transition in thinking for many parents.<br /><br />Because of the severity of defiance of my teen son, my wife and I reached the point that we cleaned out his room. All he had left was a mattress on the floor and some clothes folded and neatly stacked up on the floor. He didn't have a door to his bedroom. This was one of the things that about 3 years later our son said helped him a lot. As he became more trustworthy, he gained things back. Now when his younger sister is showing similar attitudes he did "in my dark years," as he refers to it, he speaks up and tries to reason with her much like we did with him. He's really blossomed into a beautiful man. No, he isn't perfect, but at least he has such a better attitude now and usually quickly recognizes his issues and will apologize unsolicited. These things make us so happy to see him growing in a healthy direction!<br /><br />A part of their training is sometimes allowing their actions to have real consequences, either from breaking our set rules or the law of the land. Maybe they need to have their phone taken from them, or maybe they need their room cleaned out, but whatever it is, make sure that it is done with respect and not done just because you are really angry with them. And a note about the phone, it is NOT a right to have one, it is a privilege. Don't let them convince you their grades will suffer because they don't have a phone. This is not the case. There are alternatives if they CHOOSE to make use of them.<br /><br />Something that is important that is often overlooked is spending quality time with your teens. So often we think that they are growing up and they don't need us as parents so much anymore. This is far from the reality! They have a whole set of new life challenges they are trying to face. <br /><br />Don't for a minute think that you know exactly what your teen is going through at school or elsewhere. YOU DO NOT. It's is not the same today as it was when you went to school. <br /><br />They need you now more than ever. They need your insights and wisdom to make decisions for themselves. They don't need someone to control their every movement. They need to be free to openly communicate and not be chastised by you if they have done something that wasn't so smart. Calmly LISTEN and help them to reach conclusions for themselves. The caveat is that this can only take place if you <b>make time for your teen</b>. Discuss activities that you can do together and write them down ahead of time and make a definite plan for it. It's important to have a mood set so that all are enjoying things so that communication can happen more freely in a positive environment. <br /><br />There's no quick and easy fix for a teen that is going through these difficult times. Remember to always show more love and positive reinforcement than to show the upset side of you. <br /><br />Always be consistent and so that they never have to wonder if it's ok to do something one day and not on another day.<br /><br />Don't give up on them!MicahFhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02934648433316580565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-54164597099818708662018-03-03T14:51:25.973-08:002018-03-03T14:51:25.973-08:00Hey people I'm 15 and the reason why kids my a...Hey people I'm 15 and the reason why kids my age sneak out (I don't sneak out ever though) is that their bored to death. Honestly the best way to fix it is to actually do cool things with your child and get off your high horse as a parent. Then, they will want to hangout with you more and not sneak off... thomasnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-8889198641731776752017-10-16T10:19:16.540-07:002017-10-16T10:19:16.540-07:00What would be a good way of meeting half way. I ha...What would be a good way of meeting half way. I have snooped through his stuff and have found stuff he shouldn't have. What do you suggest should happen then?Mcmshammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02130892982390539076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-68485524537675585712017-10-16T10:14:29.923-07:002017-10-16T10:14:29.923-07:00I am in the same boat. I have to admit my son has ...I am in the same boat. I have to admit my son has been a handful for about 3 years now. I don't know what to do with him. He seems to just be reckless. No amount of talking to him seems to work. I have taken his truck away and he still seeks out. I need help<br /><br />I know he is smoking and drinking. If I'm bro g hone at of he was doing well in school I wouldn't see it as a problem. We live in a small community and it seems like everyone is doing something. But there is something out of control with my son. I'm open to suggetions. I have sought out the allanon groups help but i just dont know what else to do with himMcmshammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02130892982390539076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-668608499915586692017-09-15T08:23:49.207-07:002017-09-15T08:23:49.207-07:00I am past reasoning with my 14 yr old and have cho...I am past reasoning with my 14 yr old and have chosen to declare him a minor out of control. State law allows a parent to do this and requires him to go before a judge and enter into a legal contract that, if broken, results in jail and misdemeanor charges. Sounds harsh typing this but He has zero respect for our rules and can lie to our faces without batting an eye!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-28382845122437622612017-08-28T23:39:20.227-07:002017-08-28T23:39:20.227-07:00Honestly, I'm a teen. I'm like. 15. And to...Honestly, I'm a teen. I'm like. 15. And to be honest, I leave because my parents are over protective. If they don't like my friends, that's fine, because they don't know them like I do. And if they say not to leave, I dont care because i got shit to do. They had their chance to do things their way. They like to snoop around my room lookin for stuff like drugs. That pisses me off. So they obviously don't know me like that. It's Devnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-12077208129382406362017-03-25T17:24:44.393-07:002017-03-25T17:24:44.393-07:00Remember how you felt at 15, 16, 17. I wanted free...Remember how you felt at 15, 16, 17. I wanted freedom. This age group is almost out of the door. They are working on their independence, their autonomy. Simply ask them what are they missing that they need to sneak out. What can you agree is an acceptable time to come home. Set the consequences ahead of time and if they don't comply, in a calm voice, say what was our agreement. Vhanshawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09877681078247495916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-85963387904529034902017-03-25T17:21:11.996-07:002017-03-25T17:21:11.996-07:00I'll be honest. I didn't not read their e...I'll be honest. I didn't not read their entire answer. I stopped at the part where the parents are to lock up her makeup, as if Walmart isn't 24h. <br />You need to sit her down and come up with an agreement as they suggested. Let her come to the conclusion of why it's important not to sneak out. The more she honors the agreement, reward her. Ask her questions about why she is sneaking out. Maybe the answer will surprise you.....or maybe not. Vhanshawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09877681078247495916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-62399344880399620752016-10-06T13:46:37.791-07:002016-10-06T13:46:37.791-07:00I am in the same boat. My son sneaks out after I g...I am in the same boat. My son sneaks out after I go to bed. He doesn't come in till 2,3,4,5,6 o'clock in the morning and then won't go to school. I work full time and it's just me and him. I have to hide my car keys because he has taken my car 3 times. I've put pad locks on the inside of all my doors and screwed his window shut. I'm lost. Need help.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05428143733230892149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-32729774455905677402016-04-30T04:15:28.860-07:002016-04-30T04:15:28.860-07:00My health is being impacted by the same but I don&...My health is being impacted by the same but I don't know how to change how I react - can't seem to find the off switch for worryAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11125418755531727402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-37925804490118369412016-01-13T01:57:50.634-08:002016-01-13T01:57:50.634-08:00I'm a single parent trying to provide for my 1...I'm a single parent trying to provide for my 17 yr old daughter. I work graveyard shift and my elderly mom stays with my daughter at night. She has been sneaking out the past couple months, and has been caught last week by not coming home until I walked in the door. I've taken every electronic, and lost as to the next step. Suggestions?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17485618550141287707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-32669473923051699612015-12-30T21:39:31.851-08:002015-12-30T21:39:31.851-08:00My 17 year old is doing the same thing. Every nigh...My 17 year old is doing the same thing. Every night he keeps watching me to see if and when I will fall asleep so he can sneak out. It's now affecting my sleep. I work long hours in a very stressful job and I can't seem to rest. I don't know what to do.Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06151164711639953287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-59613386845336535852015-12-11T13:41:57.141-08:002015-12-11T13:41:57.141-08:00Having the same problem w/our 14 yr old. Constantl...Having the same problem w/our 14 yr old. Constantly sneaking out! Cops brought him home 3 nights ago @ 2:30am. I am so sad. We've taken away everything he has. Disassembled the computer. No Xbox, etc. I put in a call to put him back in therapy today. It would be so nice if a therapist got on here w/some solutions.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03581019546566621186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-13872943481635730872015-04-12T02:25:25.331-07:002015-04-12T02:25:25.331-07:00My son is 17 years old. I woke up this morning to ...My son is 17 years old. I woke up this morning to find the back door unlock and my child gone. I don't know what to do. He keeps doing it. Nothing I do keeps him in the house. We have had discussion's about this situation but he still sneaks out. It's like he doesn't care. I guess I can wait until he's 18 then give him what he want... The front door! He's disrupting my house and I have other children and he's setting a bad example for them!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06311130568936288665noreply@blogger.com