tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post8199246591639087975..comments2024-01-28T07:29:31.518-08:00Comments on ONLINE PARENTING COACH: When Your Teen Breaks The LawUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-85740493421247505132010-12-31T07:35:03.008-08:002010-12-31T07:35:03.008-08:00There have been lots of problems in our home throu...There have been lots of problems in our home throughout my daughters life, her dad was diagnosed with PTSD when she was 3 years old, it has been a long journey with him battling depression, an affair, abuse of alcohol, anger and agression at times and teen problems with the boys. However, through all this our lives have been mostly happy and harmonious, our boys have all moved to the city to seek work and study and are living responsible lives although somewhat haphazardly at times. They remain connected to both my husband and me, and they are loyal to our family and as they mature are more understanding of what we have all been through. I have received counselling and am united with my husband, we want to grow old together and he has agreed to allow me to monitor his mood and pull him up if he shows signs of not managing his mood/feelings. I have trust issues but Im healing although it has taken time. He will never be the same person but I have accepted that and he is a decent and caring man who would do anything for his family.<br /> <br />Our daughter however has been difficult for the last year, she swears, is rude, late for school or truanting, wont eat with us or what I cook and uses food as a power and control thing, stays up late at night, spends hours in front of the mirror doing her hair and obsesses over make up etc, does nothing around the house except occasionally clean her room when it is only fit for a pig, most of all she plays me off against my husband, she says she hates him and hates what he has done to the family, she wants me to leave him and take her to live in the city as she hates the outback. She says I have to choose. I have refused to so this, so she punishes me by shunning me from her life and not interacting unless she wants something. She will not let me take any photos of her and says she will leave me no memories of her. In desperation we have agreed to allow her to go to boarding school in the city, she leaves in a month, but both my husband and I are feeling so fragile, we are close to tears a lot of the time and it is affecting us as a couple. Where did we go wrong, her brothers were never this bad and certainly did not use the emotional blackmail. We have had her to doctors, dietician, psychologist and she is very clever, butter wouldnt melt in her mouth, she tells them what they want to hear and they are all happy with her progress, but she never does any of the things they suggest,(except put on weight which Im sure was her loading up with water, which brought her into the healthy weight range, problem solved!) Im sure they think Im the one with the probelm, she is so sweet. I keep taking her back and they cant see too much to complain about, she is just a teen! Well Ive already had 3 of them and she is far more difficult. Do you think your program can help? I want to change they way we interact as a family and even though she is going away, Im worried that nothing will change and the holidays will be just as stressful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-61512067825069049052010-12-16T07:46:58.461-08:002010-12-16T07:46:58.461-08:00I hate my son, and home life is a living hell. I a...I hate my son, and home life is a living hell. I am now seeking employment<br />in rural areas for respite. My son welcomes it. (I can't believe I am<br />writing this).I should be excited and out shopping for xsmas gifts in hope<br />that I can somehow please him (as if).<br />Instead I find myself wondering how I can escape him today, and how I can<br />possibly live with myself for thinking such things.<br /><br />I clearly am not coping and being a mother was not meant to be such a<br />misery. Is it all my fault? Did I go wrong somewhere? Is it the only child<br />syndrome? Is it today's world? Did I miss something in Hell be Ok, (but will<br />we)<br /><br />My son is everything you describe in your marketing. He has everything, yet<br />he has nothing. He is bright, yet he does not focus, is disruptive,<br />disrespectful, and does not listen. I have got"off the bridge", (does daddy<br />really have the time to get on it.)<br />Suspended twice from school (2 different ones), and about to enter a strict<br />boys school. (Is this the answer? or are we just moving a problem)<br /><br />I'm rambling.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-33712780886690828472010-12-09T05:45:24.252-08:002010-12-09T05:45:24.252-08:00My son has been out of control for a couple of yea...My son has been out of control for a couple of years now. He quit high school, I kicked him out to his dads. His dad lost his job and has moved away and my son has been staying with my parent's until recently because he could not obey their rules.<br /> <br />He has a drinking problem, has had his car towed 3 times in less than a year and just doesn't seem to get it. I recently placed him in a motel for a week but he will soon be coming back to my home temporarily. He has been accepted into a college in New Orleans, don't know how well that will work out since he quit school but really wants to pursue filmmaking. I guess my question to you is, since I have kicked him out and he is over 18, is there any suggestions you have on getting him on the right track, losing these "so called" friends that he keeps getting into trouble with, I've thought of a chemical dependent facility but know he has to want to get help. Frustrated as I can be, he is very smart kid and would like to see him cut the partying as he will put his car into a ditch and not remember the next morning where the car is.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com