tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post8241861001336490794..comments2024-01-28T07:29:31.518-08:00Comments on ONLINE PARENTING COACH: Dealing With Your Child's "Silent Treatment"Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-29398990682676214842017-10-21T11:36:37.668-07:002017-10-21T11:36:37.668-07:00My partner's daughter (17 yo) and son (15 yo),...My partner's daughter (17 yo) and son (15 yo), both of them after 2.5 years of verbal and even physical abuse they now give me the silent treatmeent. I had to stop the physical and verbal abuse calling the police but what do i do now? This is now lasting for over 4 months so there is no way it can be rebridged, as all efforts to talk to them (her mum and I0 failed. What do we do ?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-62396109673853794302013-10-21T12:07:52.398-07:002013-10-21T12:07:52.398-07:00I have a 15 year old that has been using the silen...I have a 15 year old that has been using the silent treatment method since elementary school. His father and I are divorced, but we've maintained a very good relationship as it pertains to our kids. My son was doing this even when we were together, so clearly the divorce was not the catalyst.<br /><br />My issue is this; my son uses this method for a variety of reasons, most of which revolve around his inability to cope with whatever the trigger was that caused the shut down. Today, it's teenage relationship drama. A month ago, he used it when he didn't want to do an assignment at school. Every time this happens, I get a call and consequently miss a day of work.<br /><br />I promise, I am not being insensitive to his emotional instability, but the repercussions fall primarily on me since his father travels for his job. Once my son has emerged from his self inflicted conscious sedation, he apologizes up and down, feels awful about the unintentional disrespect and he returns to 'normal' for usually long periods of time.<br /><br />We have tried therapy, I have tried the reverse silent treatment, I have explained countless times how his actions can have serious consequences on others (like my job), but 'shut down mode' always makes it way back somehow. I'm at a loss as to what his father and I can do to help him better handle himself when life throws unexpected stones at you. <br /><br /><br /><br />Jenn Philohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05518912803655742962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-88068563091364458062012-02-24T06:05:49.673-08:002012-02-24T06:05:49.673-08:00It's not unusual for parents to be blamed by t...It's not unusual for parents to be blamed by their children for all that goes wrong in the child's life. It's much easier to blame one's parents than to take any ownership of one's problems. This is something he will outgrow. Your understanding and support are needed as he tries to figure out how to accept personal responsibility. <br /><br /><br /><br />But your understanding and support do not need to include taking verbal abuse or any other kind of abuse without a response. Your role is not to be the "whipping boy" or to feel compelled to agree with everything your son says or does. Just because "blaming others" is the only way he has to solve his problems currently does not mean that you cannot attempt to have reasonable discussions with him or walk away from him if he is refusing to do anything but blame and yell at you. There should be a consequence for yelling or name calling(but not necessarily for "blaming"). Help him to see his part in the problem without blaming him.Marknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-41839896326856411172012-02-24T06:05:30.231-08:002012-02-24T06:05:30.231-08:00Hello,
I purchased your program and love it. I do...Hello,<br />I purchased your program and love it. I do have a quick question for you. What does one do when your gifted 14-year old continuously blames everything on you. For example, if he forgets something, somehow it is my fault. If I am helping him with a homework question and I don't understand what he is explaining, I am stupid. It goes on and on....anything that can be blamed on me, whether it even involves me, is my fault. FYI - He is 14 years old, straight A student, has extremely high expectations for himself and excels at everything he does. But he is persistent, manipulative and drives me nuts. Another example, he didn't put his favorite pencil away so it is my fault that he can't find since I must have moved it. Now he expects me to take him to Walmart so he can get more. HELP-what to do when everything is my fault.<br /><br />Thanks,<br />KirstenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com