tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post109981482069653331..comments2024-01-28T07:29:31.518-08:00Comments on ONLINE PARENTING COACH: Stepmom ProblemsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-14609290818498770482017-01-18T12:58:10.351-08:002017-01-18T12:58:10.351-08:00I think the step mom here is way out of line. Whil...I think the step mom here is way out of line. While she should have power to discipline him and dad should back her, she cannot just decide how he should be disciplined and push it on dad. Especially physical discipline - whipping, pushing etc is abuse and her insisting on that is out of order. They need to talk about age appropriate discipline.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04643133976200464825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-44552089711452392892008-08-13T16:29:00.000-07:002008-08-13T16:29:00.000-07:00While most of the points are important, I do not a...While most of the points are important, I do not agree that the step-parent should be "another adult friend". I am a step-mom of 4, a bio-mom of none. Thankfully, the oldest is 19 and a mother on her own. The 17yr old son lives with my husband and myself. The 15yr old daughter & 11 yr old son live with their mother & her husband. For the record, I love the youngest & wish everyday that he could live with us. My grief is with the 17yr old son. He has no respect for any authority, much less female authority. He uses his mother for material gain, just as she has used them to her own means. He has been in legal trouble, theft, running away & unlawfully hunting, all of which my husband & I have had to pay for in legal fees, restitutions & probation fees. He has 10 months til he turns 18, and for me it cannot be soon enough. I tried the friend thing. I tried the "supervising adult" thing. I have tried to ignore them & let the bio-parents handle it. None of that works, my home & my possessions are destroyed & I get nothing but back-talk & disrespect. I believe the parental units in the home, step-parent or not, should work together to establish rules & discipline. The step-parent works every day & pays their part of the bills to support the household, including the child. That person should have equal say in the home. I will not sit by and allow my home & life be destroyed by a selfish, inconsiderate teen that has learned bad habits from the wrong parent. My advice is that you work together & compromise to a solution that is good for your relationship & for the teen (maybe psychological therapy?). Teens go through so much hormonally, & then adding divorce & new 'parents' to this equation is volatile on its own. The teen may need 3rd part intervention to release anger & resentment toward the original parents. Don't be afraid to seek help, they just might come out of it as the adult you hoped they would.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com