tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post4058152909223890213..comments2024-01-28T07:29:31.518-08:00Comments on ONLINE PARENTING COACH: Motivating Your Underachieving TeenagerUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-35165548931884466992012-01-11T09:09:01.378-08:002012-01-11T09:09:01.378-08:00She's getting high. Really, that's it asi...She's getting high. Really, that's it aside from the incredible disrespect. She comes home on time, does her chores, does ok in school even though I know she can do better. She has not stolen from us other than alcohol, which is now kept locked in our bedroom and that was a while ago. My son also keeps his bedroom door locked. She has not gotten physically violent although she did threaten me with mace only a few weeks ago. <br /> <br />But, she went to her night class stoned and then bragged about it to a group of kids there (my son also goes). I knew she was high and told her so before I let her out of the car. Afterwards, I told her I was shocked and disappointed by her behavior. She said it wasn't a big deal and readily admitted to being high (proceeded with the how much she likes it and she can stop whenever she wants). I told her that class was just as important as regular school (she is getting high school credit for it) and I thought it was a big mistake what she did. It was a good talk and she said she likes when we can just talk like that - I used my poker face and remained calm. It helped that I had two hours to calm down before picking her up. She is grounded for three days but I did not turn off her phone - she'll have to come straight home after school and do some additional chores. If she succeeds, she'll be 'free' in time for the weekend. How can she be so dumb as to brag at school that she's stoned?! I also reminded her that her father and his father are both drug addicts and it is one of the reasons I left him. I tried to emphasis the genetic predisposition for addiction to her. I know she heard me but she's having too much fun with the weed to care about that right now.<br /><br />You are helping me a lot - I'm very emotional so it's very hard for me to keep calm. I am also impatient and don't do well 'in the moment'. I try to keep in mind your facial expression and calm voice from your videos when something happens. You're the first person who has helped me. Thank you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-73785257439046483392012-01-08T16:28:48.173-08:002012-01-08T16:28:48.173-08:00My 7 yrr old son is diagnosed with ADHD, ODD and C...My 7 yrr old son is diagnosed with ADHD, ODD and Conduct Disorder. He has had ADHD for almost 2 years now. I suspected that there was someting else. He has had the the ODD and Conduct diagnosis for about a month now.He is currently on Adderol and Resperidone.These are my issues:<br /><br /> He talks excessively. He does not understand when to stop. <br /> He and his 3 year old brother took all the decorations off the Xmas tree and smashed them into smithereens. My husband left the house without telling me. When I heard them get up, I assumed my husband was there with them. I awoke to hearing lots of laughter. In Axel's defense he did not receive his medication. What bothers me is that he knew better. I spanked him and in anger told him that I don't like him. Spanking does not work with him as he does not care. He did not even react to my yelling. I made him clean the entire bonus room up. It took him about 7 hrs. When my husband came home, he took the vacuum away from Axel to finish it. I explained that part of his punishment is to clean. My husband thought that Brett should help. He would not be able to vacuum and he did clean up some of the ornaments<br /> He has difficult with toileting. He waits too long and has to run to go pee. He sometimes holds his poop. If he does go, he makes a mess on the toilet. I have told him to call me and I will help him. He never asks for help. His underwear is smeared alot of the times. He needs help, but don't know what to do there<br /> He lies alot. He blames his brother for everything<br /> He can be so negative. He complains about his brother. He tells me when my husband swears. I told him that if I hear any, I will wash his mouth out with soap.<br /> He obsesses with things that he likes. he has done this since he was two.<br /><br /><br />I have read lots of information on your website. I am overwhelmed with all of this. I have stopped reacting to his remarks about hating his brother and he has miraculously stopped. He used to ask me I am going to work tonight and I would become angry and defensive. Since I learned of his ODD, I answer his question but do not get upset. <br /><br />I would like to do whatever I can to help him and make him succeed in life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-24610936354658607062012-01-06T06:56:08.278-08:002012-01-06T06:56:08.278-08:00Love this article. Every parent deals with this fr...Love this article. Every parent deals with this from at least one of their children at some point in their life. Really good advise.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com