tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post8377805971052939628..comments2024-01-28T07:29:31.518-08:00Comments on ONLINE PARENTING COACH: Teens & DrugsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31943569.post-61670041920218380252012-05-30T07:07:51.947-07:002012-05-30T07:07:51.947-07:00My daughter just came out of 3 weeks at a horrible...My daughter just came out of 3 weeks at a horrible youth shelter that was a step down from juvie (April 23-May 15) and here we are exactly 2 weeks into her freedom, and she's back to smoking pot, staying out without permission, not doing her schoolwork. The only thing that has improved is the way she's been talking to me - much more respectful. She's had 6 appointments with this new therapist whom she really likes. They are working on her supposed PTSD, but it's the ODD that's the big problem, in my opinion.<br /><br />But, I don't know what to do anymore. I ended up taking a friend of mine who is an attorney to court with me and the judge advised her that she was considering removing my daughter from my care because she thought that I am an unfit mother - and that she would think about taking my son away, too! Isn't that crazy?! She berated me for wasting the court's time with a sibling scuffle and told us about the time she rolled her brother up in a rug and pushed him out the window and he broke his arm! This is who I have to answer to?! This is the authority figure who has control over my and my daughter's lives? She's as crazy as the first magistrate who declared that my daughter couldn't ride in a car with me - and that's why she ended up in the shelter in the first place instead of at my mom's house. Welcome to Cleveland!<br /><br />The youth shelter had no telephone or internet for her, so for 3 weeks she couldn't do much of her homework, although she did do a lot of it. It's in a bad neighborhood - her window was shot at! If I call in the authorities again, they'll just send her back there and it's not the place she needs - she needs a mental facility, but I don't know how to get her into one of those. I'm afraid to call any authority anymore because of the nightmare of what just happened. I also don't want to call my friend in again - I'm so ashamed that she even knew in the first place and her holier-than-thou attitude made everything even worse. My ex had called her.<br /><br />At this point, if/when she shows up tonight, I'm going to take her to my mother's house and she's just going to stay there until my mom can't take it anymore either. She's supposed to leave for camp on June 15 and that can't come fast enough. I don't know if she'll make it until then.<br /><br />I have been using the fair fighting and my poker face (Xanax is helping - see, I even starting taking pills because I can't take her anymore) and that has helped tremendously. Do you have any advice how to get her into a home for mental issues instead of a shelter for delinquents?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com