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Greetings, Good to hear from you. I've responded to this email in several places throughout where you see these arrows: >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Hi Mark, I haven't completed reading the e-book as yet but it certainly is very relevant so far. I live in Australia and found your website via Google. I have been divorced from my 14-year-old daughter's mother for the past 9 years. I live in another state but have maintained regular contact with my daughter over the phone and every school holidays she stays with me and my new wife and children. I had no idea there was a problem until recently. Whenever she visits or speaks with me, she is fine and when I spoke with her mother, she didn't let on there was anything wrong. About 4 months ago, I get a call from my ex saying that my daughter was skipping school and had been suspended. Then she tells me that she had been getting progressively worse over the prior 12 months ...

My 15 year old is hateful, tells me to shut up, be quiet, calls me stupid -- then wants me to fix her hair, take her to a friend’s, have her boyfriend over, or take them somewhere etc. If I ask her to do something, she gets mad or says “I will do it later.” She just broke her arm a second time due to tumbling class that I didn't want her to go to, so I finally gave in -- and this happens. I coached cheerleading for 4 years, don't know, and she says I don't care etc. I am under constant stress with her. She was so sweet. This is my 3rd daughter to act this way. My son never did, thank you. __________________________________________ Hi L., Gee -- your daughter sounds like all the other kids I work with. You are definitely not alone. At the risk of giving you a “sales pitch,” the e-book that I wrote (My Out-of-Control Teen) is specifically for parents who are experiencing what you are experiencing: problems associated with unconventional, strong-wil...

Mark, We made contract with [our son] Bill when we bought him a truck. It said he would keep grades at C's and have no more behavior problems. The second week of school, he was suspended for telling the bus driver to shut up and flipping him off. We have the truck for sale. This was stated plainly in contract. Are we doing the right thing? ~ Sharon ________________________ Hi Sharon, As you read my ebook, you'll discover where I fall of the issue of "advanced credit." The deal you made with your son goes something like this: "We'll give you a truck in exchange for (a) grades no lower than a 'C' and (b) no more behavior problems." With unconventional, strong-willed kids, "advanced credit" is the kiss of failure. For example, son says, "Mom, can I go over to my friend's house to play basketball." Mom says, "No, not until you get your homework done." Son says, "I'll do ...

Dear Mr. Hutten, A few minutes ago I e-mailed you a link to St. Paul’s web page. I want to take a minute to provide you some more background information. St. Paul’s is a private, not for profit college-prep boarding and day high school for young men. The school has a 46 year history of working with young men as a therapeutic group home, residential treatment center and during the past 12 years as a boarding school offering counseling support. Our typical students include: --Students who have gotten off the academic path due to poor choices, drug and alcohol experimentation, negative peer groups and desire to get back on track. --Students who perform better in a small classroom setting. --Students who require a structured academic and residential setting. --Students who desire the benefits of private school education. --Students who are scholarshiped as day students because of the benefits of a state academic tax credit for underprivileged children. Students receive th...

Hi T., I’ve responded to your email “point-by-point” below. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>Please look for these arrows: I’ve had a huge row with my son this Morning over nothing really. Anyway although I don’t have any concerns over his behaviour outside of home, he's become increasingly idle. Once he reached 16 he was told he had to stand on his own two feet and get a job and that pocket money would finish when he finished school. >>>>>>>>>>>>>It sounds as though he is somewhat resistant to “standing on his own two feet.” Is there an adult male (who you know very well) that could be a mentor to your son – someone who would volunteer to have a one-on-one relationship with him and help him to appreciate who he is while developing the skills he needs to succeed in the work place? >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> A mentoring relationship will help your son ...

Hi D., I've responded throughout your email where you see these arrows: >>>>>>>>>>>>>> Thank you, we appreciate the support. We are having a problem with our son accepting punishment -- whether it’s time-out or grounding. He has difficulty accepting any responsibility for his actions. He is relentless in the pursuit of what he wants, which is usually just to play. He is very young for his age. We have been trying to work with him to go out and come home on time. Once he gets out he just refuses to come home. He'll be punished and then just do the same thing again. Currently we are having trouble keeping him in his room or the house when he is punished. What are some strategies to help with this? >>>>>>>>>>>>> Two sections of the ebook will help you with this problem: "The Art of Saying Yes & No" ...and "Anger Management" He continually comes out of th...