I almost had to keep from chuckling...
Mark-
I have tried some of the reverse psychological responses on my 2 girls -- and you should have seen the confusion on their faces! I almost had to keep from chuckling.
D.
My Out-of-Control Teen
She screams that she wants to kill me...
Hi Mark,
Could you please advise how you would deal with the following situation.
When I tell my daughter that she cannot go to a friends for a sleepover (after already staying at friends a previous night) she screams that she wants to kill me and that she cannot stand being in the house with me and then storms out and states that she is going anyway. She has fallen out with her boyfriend and has self-harmed. Her boyfriend is finished with her because of her tantrums and consequential self-harm.
She is verbally attacking me from the moment she gets up and will not listen to a word I say. My partner has moved out because of the way she treats me and my doctor wants to put me on antidepressants.
I am a single parent with a 13-year-old boy and my 16-year-old daughter.
I am at the end of my tether.
Appreciate your help.
Thanks
M.
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Hi M.,
Re: “…she is going anyway.”
Teens use threats of running away as a means of getting attention, resolving an argument or even as an attempt to make their parents feel guilty or scared. Yet, too often parents take light of what their teen states regarding running away. If your daughter is threatening to run away, take time to consider what the underlying problem might be. If she threatens to run away, don't be intimidated. Let her know that you'll call the police and speak to each and every one of her friends' parents in order to find her. Let her know that you will do whatever you have to do to get her back – no matter where she goes – even if it means filing a runaway complaint with authorities.
Re: self-harm.
Please refer to this page: http://www.myoutofcontrolteen.com/cutting.html
Re: verbal attacks.
Are you using “Anger Management” and “When You Want Something From Your Kid” [Session #3 – online version of the eBook] to deal with this issue?
Mark
Could you please advise how you would deal with the following situation.
When I tell my daughter that she cannot go to a friends for a sleepover (after already staying at friends a previous night) she screams that she wants to kill me and that she cannot stand being in the house with me and then storms out and states that she is going anyway. She has fallen out with her boyfriend and has self-harmed. Her boyfriend is finished with her because of her tantrums and consequential self-harm.
She is verbally attacking me from the moment she gets up and will not listen to a word I say. My partner has moved out because of the way she treats me and my doctor wants to put me on antidepressants.
I am a single parent with a 13-year-old boy and my 16-year-old daughter.
I am at the end of my tether.
Appreciate your help.
Thanks
M.
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Hi M.,
Re: “…she is going anyway.”
Teens use threats of running away as a means of getting attention, resolving an argument or even as an attempt to make their parents feel guilty or scared. Yet, too often parents take light of what their teen states regarding running away. If your daughter is threatening to run away, take time to consider what the underlying problem might be. If she threatens to run away, don't be intimidated. Let her know that you'll call the police and speak to each and every one of her friends' parents in order to find her. Let her know that you will do whatever you have to do to get her back – no matter where she goes – even if it means filing a runaway complaint with authorities.
Re: self-harm.
Please refer to this page: http://www.myoutofcontrolteen.com/cutting.html
Re: verbal attacks.
Are you using “Anger Management” and “When You Want Something From Your Kid” [Session #3 – online version of the eBook] to deal with this issue?
Mark
Stepfather Fondled Stepdaughter?
Hi Mark,
I just joined your program, but I am wondering if this is right. My daughter is now 20 years old; she does not live at home anymore. She is at college and living with her boyfriend. The reason I felt that I should join is that so many of the things you have written and said sound so much like her behavior as she was growing up and I just always attributed it to being from a divorced family and living in a "step" family. But just very recently after 15 years in the house with my husband, she comes to me and tells me that he had been fondling her from the time she was 12 to 18. Several questions arose from me by this allegation. My head tells me I should believe my daughter but I am finding it so hard to believe that my husband would be capable of this. I have spoke to a few of the people she has "told" that he has done this to her, but so far these people are saying she NEVER said anything specific just that you have to watch him. Then I heard she threw his son into the mix. His son is 3 years older than her and they have ALWAYS been very close, she has always confided in him, he has always helped her, etc. So without getting so deep into this whole thing through an email I’m just wondering if this is going to help me find out if my daughter DOES have a problem. In the 6 years this was going on she NEVER told me, her biological father (who she did/does see), we have 2 friends that are police (one local one state), she never took this information to them, 2 of the people she said she told were adults and NEVER told me that she told them this. There are just several things that are concerning to me. This is my husband’s life on the line, but on the other hand if he did this to my child, HOW HORRIBLE!!!!! I have asked my husband to move out to give me the space I feel I need to sort all of this out and he did, his family is very upset by it, but that can ONLY be natural. He has also agreed to go to a counselor as well as take a polygraph to prove his innocence. I have asked my daughter to go to counseling because if he HAS done this to her, she needs help to deal with it.
Any advise, any help, any suggestions? Will this program help and lead me in the right direction?
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Hi R.,
Whether or not it is occurring more often or being reported more often, the incidence of reported sexual abuse of children has increased in America. Studies have shown 1 out of 4 women - and 1 out of 10 men - state they were sexually abused as children.
A member of their own family or someone known to the family has molested most sexually abused children. Only 15 to 20 percent of child molesters are unknown to their victims.
Force is not commonly used in child molestation. Since the offender is often a close family member, the victim usually has a trusting relationship with him. The fact that trust is deliberately violated by the offender is what makes child sexual abuse so damaging.
Any sexualized behavior (e.g., sexual acting out, talking about sex at a young age) is a sign that the child or adolescent may be abused.
Most victims - over 90 percent according to research - are telling the truth when they reveal what has been happening to them. Usually the victim has no reason to lie about so serious a matter while the alleged offender has every reason to deny it. Since there is so much embarrassment and shame associated with it, young ladies (and men) tend not to mention past sexual abuse if it had not happened?
Because of the realistic fears of disclosure - the shame, criminal prosecution and possible break-up of the family - sexual abuse can go on for years before it is discovered. The pressures on the victim not to disclose are enormous. Often, she has been repeatedly warned by the offender not to tell and she is afraid of what might happen to him - and her family if she does.
If the disclosure of the sexual abuse is handled calmly and properly and if treatment is provided, the abuse will not necessarily permanently traumatize a victim. But without proper handling and treatment, the effects to the victim can include life-long depression, guilt, self-concept problems, unresolved anger, sexual dysfunctions or hyper-sexuality and difficulty trusting other people.
Whenever a youth says she has been sexually victimized, the best strategy is to believe her. She must also be reassured that she has done the right thing by disclosing and that she is in no way responsible for the abuse. Her chances of recovering from the molestation are much greater if she is supported in these ways.
If you suspect that sexual abuse has occurred, you must report it.
Polygraphs are much more reliable today than in times past. Thus, if he passes, you will need to consider putting the whole thing in the past. If he does not pass, then …well, you know the truth about what went on.
Re: Will this program help and lead me in the right direction?
I think it will help you make sense of some of your daughter’s “dysfunctional” behavior – behavior that would be much more related to an “over-indulgent” parenting style rather than the after-effects of divorce or molestation.
Mark
My Out-of-Control Teen
I just joined your program, but I am wondering if this is right. My daughter is now 20 years old; she does not live at home anymore. She is at college and living with her boyfriend. The reason I felt that I should join is that so many of the things you have written and said sound so much like her behavior as she was growing up and I just always attributed it to being from a divorced family and living in a "step" family. But just very recently after 15 years in the house with my husband, she comes to me and tells me that he had been fondling her from the time she was 12 to 18. Several questions arose from me by this allegation. My head tells me I should believe my daughter but I am finding it so hard to believe that my husband would be capable of this. I have spoke to a few of the people she has "told" that he has done this to her, but so far these people are saying she NEVER said anything specific just that you have to watch him. Then I heard she threw his son into the mix. His son is 3 years older than her and they have ALWAYS been very close, she has always confided in him, he has always helped her, etc. So without getting so deep into this whole thing through an email I’m just wondering if this is going to help me find out if my daughter DOES have a problem. In the 6 years this was going on she NEVER told me, her biological father (who she did/does see), we have 2 friends that are police (one local one state), she never took this information to them, 2 of the people she said she told were adults and NEVER told me that she told them this. There are just several things that are concerning to me. This is my husband’s life on the line, but on the other hand if he did this to my child, HOW HORRIBLE!!!!! I have asked my husband to move out to give me the space I feel I need to sort all of this out and he did, his family is very upset by it, but that can ONLY be natural. He has also agreed to go to a counselor as well as take a polygraph to prove his innocence. I have asked my daughter to go to counseling because if he HAS done this to her, she needs help to deal with it.
Any advise, any help, any suggestions? Will this program help and lead me in the right direction?
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Hi R.,
Whether or not it is occurring more often or being reported more often, the incidence of reported sexual abuse of children has increased in America. Studies have shown 1 out of 4 women - and 1 out of 10 men - state they were sexually abused as children.
A member of their own family or someone known to the family has molested most sexually abused children. Only 15 to 20 percent of child molesters are unknown to their victims.
Force is not commonly used in child molestation. Since the offender is often a close family member, the victim usually has a trusting relationship with him. The fact that trust is deliberately violated by the offender is what makes child sexual abuse so damaging.
Any sexualized behavior (e.g., sexual acting out, talking about sex at a young age) is a sign that the child or adolescent may be abused.
Most victims - over 90 percent according to research - are telling the truth when they reveal what has been happening to them. Usually the victim has no reason to lie about so serious a matter while the alleged offender has every reason to deny it. Since there is so much embarrassment and shame associated with it, young ladies (and men) tend not to mention past sexual abuse if it had not happened?
Because of the realistic fears of disclosure - the shame, criminal prosecution and possible break-up of the family - sexual abuse can go on for years before it is discovered. The pressures on the victim not to disclose are enormous. Often, she has been repeatedly warned by the offender not to tell and she is afraid of what might happen to him - and her family if she does.
If the disclosure of the sexual abuse is handled calmly and properly and if treatment is provided, the abuse will not necessarily permanently traumatize a victim. But without proper handling and treatment, the effects to the victim can include life-long depression, guilt, self-concept problems, unresolved anger, sexual dysfunctions or hyper-sexuality and difficulty trusting other people.
Whenever a youth says she has been sexually victimized, the best strategy is to believe her. She must also be reassured that she has done the right thing by disclosing and that she is in no way responsible for the abuse. Her chances of recovering from the molestation are much greater if she is supported in these ways.
If you suspect that sexual abuse has occurred, you must report it.
Polygraphs are much more reliable today than in times past. Thus, if he passes, you will need to consider putting the whole thing in the past. If he does not pass, then …well, you know the truth about what went on.
Re: Will this program help and lead me in the right direction?
I think it will help you make sense of some of your daughter’s “dysfunctional” behavior – behavior that would be much more related to an “over-indulgent” parenting style rather than the after-effects of divorce or molestation.
Mark
My Out-of-Control Teen
My husband has been able to access my son's MSN...
Merry Christmas Mark,
We have been working your program and things are coming along nicely. I would really appreciate your opinion about something though. My husband has been able to access my son's MSN and he is able to see all conversations my son has online with his friends. This came in handy at one point because we were able to find out that A__ was selling/trading his ritalin for cigarettes and alcohol.....this was quite serious so I was happy at that time to be able to track what he was doing. A__ has no idea we can see his MSN on the computer. Anyway, I'm not so sure that my husband should keep checking his conversations online because how will he ever be able to trust him with all this inside information. Let's face it kids bullshit to their friends and exaggerate, so he may not even be being truthful about some things. I was raised pulling the wool over my parents eyes at times and we still had a wonderful loving relationship as does my husband with his parents. Please give me your thoughts on this.
Thank you, J.
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Hi J.,
Please refer to "It's O.K. To Spy On Your Teens".
Good Luck,
Mark
We have been working your program and things are coming along nicely. I would really appreciate your opinion about something though. My husband has been able to access my son's MSN and he is able to see all conversations my son has online with his friends. This came in handy at one point because we were able to find out that A__ was selling/trading his ritalin for cigarettes and alcohol.....this was quite serious so I was happy at that time to be able to track what he was doing. A__ has no idea we can see his MSN on the computer. Anyway, I'm not so sure that my husband should keep checking his conversations online because how will he ever be able to trust him with all this inside information. Let's face it kids bullshit to their friends and exaggerate, so he may not even be being truthful about some things. I was raised pulling the wool over my parents eyes at times and we still had a wonderful loving relationship as does my husband with his parents. Please give me your thoughts on this.
Thank you, J.
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Hi J.,
Please refer to "It's O.K. To Spy On Your Teens".
Good Luck,
Mark
U.S. Boarding Schools: Ohio to Wyoming
Boarding Schools in Ohio--
Western Reserve Academy
Boarding Schools in Oregon--
Western Mennonite School
Boarding Schools in Pennsylvania--
Wyoming Seminary
Boarding Schools in Rhode Island--
St. George's School
Boarding Schools in South Carolina--
Camden Military Academy
Boarding Schools in South Dakota--
Sunshine Bible Academy
The Andrews School An Andrews Education is a sound and exciting educational investment. For over eighty years, our personalized approach to women's education and our size, offerings, and facilities have combined to insure that each student at The Andrews School receives an exceptional education. Evidence confirms that an all-girls school provides numerous advantages that help girls to realize their potential and fulfill their aspirations. | |
Excel Academy Excel Academy is a private non-profit school for students in Kindergarten through 12th grade. Excel Academy specializes in individualized services to meet each student's unique social, emotional and educational needs. Excel Academy's services include tutoring, credit completion, traditional school programming, high school diploma completion and summer programming. | |
Gilmour Academy As a Catholic School in the Holy Cross tradition, Gilmour Academy has chosen as its mission the education of the mind and the heart. Gilmour instills in each student a strong sense of personal self-worth through personal achievement. The world our students will soon lead will require them to be persons of great courage and moral stamina, with an enthusiastic, lifelong desire to learn. | |
Olney Friends School Olney Friends School, a co-educational boarding school for grades 9 through 12, provides an intellectually challenging college preparatory program in a supportive Friends community that promotes traditional Quaker values such as integrity and simplicity, while encouraging freedom of expression, creative thinking and acceptance of individual differences. | |
The Grand River Academy The Grand River Academy is a traditional nonsectarian, non-military, boarding high school whose primary goal is to prepare boys for a successful college education. The Academy is located one hour east of Cleveland, Ohio. | |
Western Reserve Academy offers an outstanding education to talented, motivated students and has a long tradition of placing its graduates at the most selective schools in the country. Reserve is an open and caring community that shares a set of fundamental values: excellence, integrity, compassion.
Boarding Schools in Oregon--
Mount Bachelor Academy Located outside of Bend, Oregon, just east of the majestic Cascade Mountains, Mount Bachelor Academy offers a 14-16 month therapeutic boarding school program. The curriculum is designed for adolescents 13-18 who may have behavioral, emotional, motivational problems or learning disabilities. MBA has been providing a well-rounded curriculum integrating therapeutic counseling with intellectual, social and physical growth in a boarding school environment since 1988. | |
New Leaf Academy New Leaf is a therapeutic boarding school that offers a safe, nurturing environment for struggling middle school age girls. At the time of admission, our students are over 10 and under 14 years of age. Our 18-21 month program teaches positive self-expression, responsibility and helps troubled young girls and their families transition to a better place. | |
NorthStar Center North Star Center is a young-adult transitional-living program specializing in assisting struggling students with high school completion, college-prep and college-level courses. Located in the small college and resort community of Bend, Oregon, all students receive personal academic assistance, individual and group counseling, character building wilderness experience and ongoing support in becoming a responsible young adult. Achieving progressive independence to self-reliance is a major focus for all students. The program length is one year. | |
Canyonville Christian Academy Canyonville Christian Academy, a fully accredited boarding high school, has won national and state academic awards and aims to to encourage all students to achieve their full potential. CCA offers a distinctly Christian education in a standard classroom setting. The curriculum includes all state-required courses for graduation and a Bible course each term. In addition, for the college-bound student and those with special interests, CCA offers math through calculus, science through physics, foreign language, computer education, music and other electives. | |
Cascade Boys Ranch Cascade Boys Ranch is a rural complex for boys ages 10 to 16, located in the foothills of the Southern Oregon Cascades. Boys live in disciplined boundaries with a family and staff, pursue their academic needs, and have a chance to become well directed and productive citizens. Cascade Boys Ranch endeavors to redirect boys behaviorally by offering parameters in which to learn Accountability, Responsibility, and Trust. Through instruction, steady work, correction, and encouragement, boys develop a healthy self-image and a firm foundation on which to build good lives. | |
Milo Adventist Academy Milo Adventist Academy is a school family committed to creating opportunities for developing a Christlike character, pursuing educational excellence, and discovering the joy of service in a safe, nurturing, and friendly environment. | |
Oregon Episcopal School The purpose of Oregon Episcopal School is to prepare students with promise for higher education and lifelong learning and to enhance their intellectual, physical, social, emotional, spiritual, and artistic growth so that they may realize their power for good as citizens of local and world communities. | |
The Delphian School The Delphian School's mission is "To give young people a rich academic background, a strong sense of ethics and a broad range of abilities to successfully launch them into higher education, a career and life itself. More broadly, help build a better world through effective education." | |
Western Mennonite School is dedicated to quality education and the spiritual nurture of our students. Excellent teachers and staff give of themselves to help students realize their potential...spiritually, academically and socially.
Boarding Schools in Pennsylvania--
Carson Long Military Institute Carson Long Military Institute in New Bloomfield, Pennsylvania, offers a way of life that challenges 6th through 12th grade boys to be their best, emphasizing our conviction that individuals with trained minds and sound bodies are the most likely to succeed in life. | |
George School The George School community, committed to Quaker ideals, cultivates respect for differences by affirming the Light of God in everyone. We teach our students to aspire to excellence as we prepare them for further education and a lifetime of learning as members of the global community. George School is a Friends (Quaker) college preparatory boarding and day school for boys and girls in grades 9 through 12. | |
Linden Hall Linden Hall is an independent, college preparatory, boarding and day school for girls in grades 6-12. The school has been continuously educating young girls for over 258 years. Their motto clearly states: We are learning not only for school but for life. The school compliments its strong academic curriculum with an array of performing and fine arts classes and fitness for life programs, plus a competitive equestrian program. | |
Perkiomen School Perkiomen School has a philosophy focused on creating an effective environment for individual growth and for the development of personal ethics. Perkiomen strives to embrace diversity and help students focus on ideals which are purposeful, reasonable, consistent with traditional values, and spiritually balanced. | |
Perkiomen Valley Academy Perkiomen Valley Academy recognizes that one of the most important things that we can teach our youth is to value their education. PVA combines individualized education with a thoughtfully planned, community-based day treatment program. As in any school, PVA helps students master structured courses they need to live successfully: science, math, English, social studies and computer literacy, to name a few. But PVA also helps them to learn about life: to recognize the need for personal change and growth, to act responsibly and to assume responsibility for their own actions. | |
Pine Forge Academy Pine Forge Academy, a co-educational Seventh-day Adventist school, serves grades 9 - 12. It is committed to provide a Christ centered curriculum in a safe, caring environment, to prepare students spiritually, intellectually, physically and socially for service to God and man. | |
The Grier School Founded in 1853, The Grier School has continuously operated with the mission of helping young women develop their intellectual, athletic and artistic talents. The school motto, "Sana Mens In Corpore Sano," (Sound Mind in a Sound Body) captures the spirit of the school. A sesquicentennial celebration in June of 2003 celebrated the school's 150 years of history. | |
The Kiski School Located on an expansive, yet intimate campus in Saltsburg, Pennsylvania, The Kiski School stands as a unique institution – a residential college preparatory school that excels in educating boys. Kiski accomplishes this in a number of ways: they challenge boys, but also offer them support; they respect tradition while embracing technology; they foster community and encourage self-development. | |
The Phelps School The Phelps School provides a challenging yet supportive day and boarding program for boys. The structured, disciplined environment offers small classes and individualized attention designed to generate academic success and improve self-esteem. | |
The School at Church Farm The mission of The School at Church Farm is to provide a rigorous, well-rounded, college-preparatory education in a caring, Christian environment to help prepare our students for productive and fulfilling lives. We seek young men of ability and promise for whom the CFS educational experience presents an extraordinary opportunity. | |
Valley Forge Military Academy & College A Valley Forge education is rooted in quality academic programs and supported by leadership responsibilities, character development, personal motivation, and strong athletic and extracurricular opportunities. Valley Forge provides cadets with a complete education that prepares every part of them for success. | |
Westtown School Westtown School is a Quaker, co-educational, day and boarding school founded in 1799. Guided by the Quaker belief that there is that of God in all persons, Westtown School is a community of learners who value—and are themselves strengthened by—the rich diversity of its members. | |
With its distinguished brick and ivy-covered buildings, extensive academic offerings, dedicated faculty, 8:1 student/teacher ratio, invigorating athletic, fine arts and performing arts programs, up-to-date technology, and consistently high placement rate in the nation's top colleges and universities, Wyoming Seminary is known as a challenging, engaging school.
Boarding Schools in Rhode Island--
Portsmouth Abbey The Portsmouth Abbey education is grounded in the Western intellectual tradition, from ancient Greece and Rome and continuing into this century. This classical curriculum is balanced by a focus on spirituality, athletics, the arts and fun. The school's mission encompasses the importance of reverence for God and the human person, respect for learning and order, and responsibility for the shared experience of community life. | |
St. Andrew's School St. Andrew's is a coeducational day and boarding school of 200 students in grades 6 through 12. Their beautiful 85-acre campus is located in Barrington, RI, a suburban community within minutes of Providence and easy driving distance to Newport, Boston, and New York. At St. Andrew's, students and families feel a sense of community and each student's learning strengths are valued and nurtured. | |
St. George's School is a selective and rigorous co-educational boarding school for students in grades 9-12. Students challenge themselves through a program that combines demanding academics with a rich array of athletic and extracurricular opportunities.
Boarding Schools in South Carolina--
Ben Lippen School The purpose of Ben Lippen School is to glorify God by assisting the family and church in equipping students spiritually, academically and socially under the Lordship of Jesus Christ. Ben Lippen School has three primary objectives: 1)To call students to Christian discipleship; 2)To provide an excellent academic education; 3)To be an extension of the Christian home. | |
The core of the Camden experience is the Academy's academic program. Camden enrolls young men in grades 7 through 12 as well as for a post graduate year. The academic program on the high school level is strictly college preparatory.
Boarding Schools in South Dakota--
Sunshine Bible Academy
Sunshine Bible Academy is a non-denominational Christian school located in the heart of South Dakota that exists to assist parents with their responsibility to raise their children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Boarding Schools in Tennessee--
Webb School
Boarding Schools in Texas--
Valley Grande Academy
Boarding Schools in Utah--
Wasatch Academy
Boarding Schools in Vermont--
Bromley Brook Bromley Brook boarding school for girls educates young women to be tomorrow's leaders. Our mission is to teach each girl to recognize her own individual needs and to use her self-awareness to achieve more than she thought possible. At Bromley Brook, our faculty is hand-selected for their professional expertise and their boundless enthusiasm for working with girls. Beginning with the admissions process, this faculty collaborates with the student, her family, and referring professionals to create an Assessment-Based Individualized Learning Plan. What makes Bromley Brook School different from other girls' boarding schools? Our emphasis on assessment. Our comprehensive, research-based assessment allows us to create a truly individualized approach to your daughter's education and personal growth.
The Greenwood School
Boarding Schools in Virginia--
Woodberry Forest School
Boarding Schools in Washington--
Upper Columbia Academy
Boarding Schools in West Virginia--
Mount de Chantal Visitation Academy
Boarding Schools in Wisconsin--
Wayland Academy
Boarding Schools in Wyoming--
Mount Carmel Youth Ranch
Boarding Schools in Tennessee--
Baylor School Baylor School, founded in 1893, is a coeducational day and boarding college preparatory school enrolling students in grades 6-12. Our students come from around the country and world drawn by a strong academic program, diverse extracurricular activities, and a nurturing residential atmosphere. | |
McCallie School The McCallie School is a college preparatory school for boys that accepts young men with above average to exceptional academic abilities and those students matriculate at some of the best colleges and universities in the nation. The school has been recognized for its innovative educational programs and its overall standards of excellence. | |
St. Andrew’s-Sewanee St. Andrew’s-Sewanee, one of the oldest Episcopal boarding schools in the country, has a rich 130-year history of college-prep education atop the Cumberland Plateau, about 100 miles from Nashville. | |
The King's Academy The King's Academy is dedicated to preparing students for a life of maximum contribution to the cause of Christ. This preparation focuses on the mental, physical, spiritual, and social development of each student. The academy provides an educational atmosphere in which Christian beliefs and values are freely examined and expressed. | |
Webb has produced 10 Rhodes Scholars and its graduates have gone on to attend prestigious colleges and universities across the nation and to lead important, successful and fulfilling lives in business, education, and the arts.
Boarding Schools in Texas--
Brook Hill School The Brook Hill School is a coeducational private school teaching in the classic tradition from a Christian world view. The Brook Hill School provides excellence in college preparatory education, affirms the gifts and challenges the potential of each student, and encourages students to honor God through Christ-like character. | |
Fulshear Ranch At Fulshear Ranch, young women (age 18 and over) are invited on a journey of self discovery and education. Using a holistic model, participants experience both field-based experiential education and classroom academics, therapeutic groups and activities, life skills and career training, all in an environment which promotes overall health and wellness. | |
Incarnate Word High School Incarnate Word High School promotes a profound respect for persons of all creeds, cultures, and races. A young woman leaves Incarnate Word High School with an inquiring mind, a confident assessment of her own self-worth, and with the empowerment to make a difference in the Church and in her community. | |
Marine Military Academy The Marine Military Academy is unique among all military secondary institutions. In a world where many prefer to take shortcuts and offer less than their personal best effort, the Marine Military Academy challenges each Cadet to strive for excellence and his highest potential. | |
San Antonio Academy of Texas San Antonio Academy of Texas offers prekindergarten through eighth grade boys an exceptional academic program that features small classes, a family-like atmosphere, the development of a positive self-image and a foundation for life based upon the love of God and country, integrity and respect for each other. | |
San Marcos Baptist Academy The mission of San Marcos Baptist Academy is to educate young men and women within a nurturing community based upon Christian values. | |
St. Anthony Catholic High School St. Anthony Catholic High School offers a wide variety of academic, athletic, and and other life experiences, guiding students to critically assess their own values and those of society. The school challenges the students to participate in a total program integrating academics, athletics, Christian service, community activities, and spirituality. | |
St. Stephen's Episcopal School St. Stephen's Episcopal School, a coeducational boarding-and-day school of the Diocese of Texas, is a caring, diverse, Christian community that nurtures moral growth and values the potential and dignity of every human being. We challenge motivated students to live intelligently, creatively, and humanely as contributing members of society. | |
Texas Military Institute Texas Military Institute’s vision is unique, bold, and timely. The mission of TMI is to provide an excellent educational community, with values based on the teachings of Jesus Christ, challenging motivated students to develop their full potential in service and leadership. | |
The Hockaday School Within the context of an outstanding academic environment, The Hockaday School's goals are to foster a community of concern and friendship, to instill in every girl a love of learning and an understanding of herself and the ethical principles which guide her life, and to develop an appreciation of excellence in all its forms with a commitment to what is right and good. | |
Valley Grande Academy is a coeducational boarding high school owned and operated by the Texas Conference of Seventh-day Adventists. Valley Grande Academy seeks to provide a high quality college preparatory Christian education for grades 9-12. Most of all the school seeks to help students experience Jesus Christ as a personal friend as they become part of a caring school family.
Boarding Schools in Utah--
Aspen Ranch A licensed residential treatment center located in Loa, Utah the Aspen Ranch utilizes its nationally renown equine therapy program as one of its tools to help young people. The Ranch combines an academic structure with intensive therapeutic milieu to create positive change emotionally, as well as academically. The strong work ethic inherent on the Ranch is fundamental to adolescents 13-17 cultivating the characteristics of responsibility, discipline, respect and teamwork. Length of stay ranges from six to twelve months. NPS-certified in the state of California. | |
Island View School Island View operates its own on-campus private school, since resident's education and pursuit of a high school diploma are an important part of the interdisciplinary treatment. The school is fully accredited and certified teachers show the ability to "re-ignite" residents to the experience of learning. A small class ratio of one teacher to sixteen students per classroom enhances the learning atmosphere. Operating on a year-round basis, Island View provides a full six-period school day, five days per week. Students are required to complete daily homework assignments and benefit from individualized attention when required. | |
Oakley School The Oakley School was founded in response to the distinct need to create a boarding school that provides a whole education - one that challenges the student's mind, spirit and body. Here students learn to combine reason with emotion and freedom with responsibility. Oakley students have the opportunity to delve into a variety of learning experiences that help them to discover who they are, what they stand for and who they could be. The school maintains high academic standards in a context that nurtures thoughtfulness, emotional vitality, social responsibility, and physical health. | |
SunHawk Academy SunHawk Academy's long-term residential program combines an intense clinical intervention with an accredited academic program. SunHawk treats struggling teens 13-17 with behavioral and substance abuse problems. During our program, students progress through levels as they achieve specific academic and behavioral goals. Personal growth of students is encouraged through extensive therapeutic activities, which are under the direction of qualified clinical staff. The "Life Skills Training" component of the program gives each child extensive exposure to real life experiences that are necessary to succeed in today's society. | |
Turn-About Ranch Turn-About Ranch is a short-term, high-impact therapy program that emphasizes family values and relationships. This co-ed program is located on a cattle ranch in Escalante, Utah and accepts students between the ages of 12 to 18. Licensed as a residential treatment center, Turn-About Ranch has 30 students on campus and offers education and treatment with a Christian-based philosophy. | |
Youth Care Inc. A residential treatment center located in a suburb of Salt Lake City, Utah, Youth Care Inc. is a companion program to Pine Ridge Academy. Youth Care Inc provides individualized care in a family oriented environment. Enrollment is limited to 14 students between the ages of 11-18. Youth Care Inc. provides a therapeutic environment for both mental health and chemical dependency diagnosis. Accreditation is by the Joint Commission on Accreditation of Healthcare Organizations making Youth Care Inc. a preferred provider for many insurance companies. | |
Lotts' Legacy Boarding School Lott's Legacy cares deeply about your teen's future and especially about their "today's"! They know they can be happy; that they can succeed; that they can set and reach goals; that they can become more understanding, accepting young adults and return to their families with a new, positive outlook on life. Make a positive choice for your struggling teens future today. | |
Silverado Boys Ranch Typical boarding schools for troubled youth offer programs in urban settings, while Silverado Boys Ranch provides a challenging and rigorous academic rural setting on 200 acres. | |
The Wasatch Academy mission statement is to provide a nurturing community that empowers young men and young women to develop academically, socially and morally, preparing them for college and for the challenges of living in the 21st century.
Boarding Schools in Vermont--
Bromley Brook Bromley Brook boarding school for girls educates young women to be tomorrow's leaders. Our mission is to teach each girl to recognize her own individual needs and to use her self-awareness to achieve more than she thought possible. At Bromley Brook, our faculty is hand-selected for their professional expertise and their boundless enthusiasm for working with girls. Beginning with the admissions process, this faculty collaborates with the student, her family, and referring professionals to create an Assessment-Based Individualized Learning Plan. What makes Bromley Brook School different from other girls' boarding schools? Our emphasis on assessment. Our comprehensive, research-based assessment allows us to create a truly individualized approach to your daughter's education and personal growth.
St. Johnsbury Academy The mission of St. Johnsbury Academy, is to provide a diverse, comprehensive, and independent educational community grounded by our traditions, our deep optimism regarding young people, and our commitment to academic excellence. | |
Stratton Mountain School Stratton Mountain School, the first ski academy accredited by the New England Association of Schools and Colleges, has a strong tradition of solid college preparatory academics combined with the most comprehensive and innovative training programs available to young alpine and nordic ski racers and snowboarders. | |
The Greenwood School, founded in 1978, is a pre-preparatory boarding school for boys ages nine to fifteen have been diagnosed with: dyslexia; specific language-based learning disabilities / learning differences (LD); receptive language and/or expressive language deficits; executive functioning deficits; attentional difficulties (ADD or ADHD); disorders of written expression; dysgraphia; or speech and language needs. In fact, a combination of these learning disabilities / learning differences (LD) are often clustered together in most Greenwood students’ learning profiles. Despite their learning challenges, their students are highly intelligent and have significant talents in the arts, in woodworking, or in athletics.
Boarding Schools in Virginia--
Chatham Hall An all girls boarding school, Chatham Hall offers students a strong, college-preparatory academic program, rich extracurricular opportunities, and a beautiful 362-acre campus. In small classes, teachers challenge students to excel academically. | |
Christchurch School Christchurch began and continues as one of the Episcopal Church Schools in the Diocese of Virginia. They welcome students of all faiths to this community, founded on traditional ideas of education as a lifelong pursuit, service to others, truth, self-discipline, and honor.a | |
Episcopal High School Episcopal High School is dedicated to the student's pursuit of excellence and to the joy of learning and self-discovery in a caring and supportive community. Enriched by the educational and cultural resources of the nation's capital, Episcopal's dynamic academic program encourages students to develop individual talents and prepares them to attend selective colleges and universities. | |
Fishburne Military School Fishburne Military School is a private all boys boarding school for grades 8 through 12. Small class sizes and a structured learning environment have proven successful in preparing students for the adult world. | |
Fork Union Military Academy The mission of Fork Union Military Academy is to provide young men a college preparatory education in a residential, Christian environment. Using the best aspects of the military system, the Academy teaches its cadets responsibility, leadership, discipline, and pride by providing an atmosphere in which spiritual, mental, and physical growth can flourish. | |
Foxcroft School Foxcroft School, founded in 1914, is an independent boarding and day school for girls in grades 9-12 located in Middleburg, Virginia. Foxcroft has become a national model for the education of young women because we have created a learning and living environment that addresses in a comprehensive way the specific strengths and needs of girls. Foxcroft provides a residential learning experience for girls in which academic excellence, leadership, responsibility, and integrity are our highest values. | |
Hargrave Military Academy Located in Southwest Virginia, Hargrave Military Academy is a private boarding school with Christian values serving boys from grades seven to one postgraduate year. Development of personal responsibility, fitness, academic grades and moral character are important goals for each Cadet. Opportunities for personal achievement lead each Cadet to a more successful, rewarding life. | |
Massanutten Military Academy Massanutten Military Academy's mission is to provide every cadet with an academic, character, leadership and physical education of excellence, which ensures their development and readiness for college, leadership, and citizenship. MMA's mission is established on the founding motto of the Academy, "Non Nobis Solum" ("Not for ourselves alone"), and based on the principles of Courage, Purity, and Industry. | |
Oak Hill Academy Oak Hill Academy is a coeducational, Baptist affiliated, boarding/day high school committed to excellence in education and adolescent development in a non-military setting. The mission of Oak Hill Academy is to provide a safe, secure, nurturing environment for girls and boys needing a change in school, peer, community or family relationships. | |
Randolph Macon Academy The mission of Randolph-Macon Academy is to attract young people of high moral character and intelligence with the capacity and desire to attend a school of higher learning; provide a dedicated and highly qualified faculty and staff and a positive, disciplined and religious environment; and educate and produce outstanding leaders of strong character and solid knowledge, prepared for life-long learning and effective citizenship. | |
St. Margaret's School Educating young women for life is a mission we take seriously at St. Margaret's School. We not only help students develop academic skills; we also teach them how to be ethical, responsible adults who contribute to their communities. | |
Stuart Hall Stuart Hall seeks to educate the whole child - mind, body, heart, and spirit - in a special context: a supportive, family-like, Christian environment that nurtures self-esteem and honor, leadership and industry, compassion and commitment to service, and the recognition and acceptance of individual differences. | |
The Madeira School As an all-girls college preparatory boarding and day school, The Madeira School is dedicated to providing girls with a top-notch education and the skills to lead lives of their own making. At Madeira, you will find an extraordinary faculty that will engage and challenge your mind and care about your personal growth. Their unique Co-Curriculum program will allow you to gain real-life work experience and contribute to the community around you. The diversity of their student body will allow you to explore the cultures of the world and make friendships that will last a lifetime. | |
Virginia Episcopal School Virginia Episcopal School is committed to rigorous academic training and vigorous individual attention in a spiritual and ethical environment. Their campus includes three gymnasiums, classroom buildings, residence halls, an art center, and some of the nation's finest equestrian facilities. | |
As an academic institution, Woodberry ranks among the top independent schools in the country. What sets Woodberry apart is its residential community, a campus intentionally focused on supporting young men in the development of character as well as intellect.
Boarding Schools in Washington--
Annie Wright School Annie Wright enjoys a rich tradition, the loyalty of many alumni/ae and parent families, and a reputation for a challenging academic program that develops leadership, character and a sense of belonging. | |
Auburn Adventist Academy Established in 1919, Auburn Adventist Academy is a private coeducational Christian boarding and day high school operated by the Seventh-day Adventist Church located in Auburn, Washington. With a vibrant spiritual atmosphere, superior academics, and a friendly and accepting student body, Auburn is the perfect place to pursue educational excellence. | |
By the grace of God, Upper Columbia Academy educates students to develop harmoniously the physical, mental and spiritual powers, inspiring a life-changing relationship with God and the highest service for others.
Boarding Schools in West Virginia--
Linsly School Founded in 1814, the Linsly School is a day and boarding school for students in grades 5 through 12. We offer a college preparatory curriculum that combines the traditional values of hard work, respect, honor, honesty, and self-discipline within a challenging academic program designed to unlock the potential of each student. | |
The educational philosophy of the Mount is rooted in the spirit of the Visitation Order and the teachings of its founders, St. Francis de Sales and Sister Jane de Chantal. Essential to this heritage is a sensitive and supportive concern for each student. The spirituality of St. Francis de Sales calls us, as educators, to respect our students and to recognize and value their uniqueness.
Boarding Schools in Wisconsin--
Conserve School At Conserve School we believe that our future is intimately related to the future of the natural world. Fundamental to our quest are the natural resources that sustain our lives and the qualities of character that sustain our minds and spirits. We call these qualities our values, and we identify them as follows: compassion, honesty, justice, respect, and responsibility. | |
Saint Lawrence Seminary Saint Lawrence Seminary is a Catholic college preparatory boarding high school, owned and operated by the Capuchin-Franciscan friars. St. Lawrence is a place in which students live, learn, work, and pray together. | |
St. John's Northwestern Military Academy St. John's Northwestern Military Academy believes in the development of the mind, body, and spirit of each individual. The Academy is founded on time-honored values and traditions such as honesty, integrity, duty, honor, and country. Our mission is to build character and scholarship by stressing the four cornerstones of the cadet lifestyle: Academics, Athletics, Leadership, and Values. | |
Wayland Academy, established in the heartland of Wisconsin in 1855, is an independent, coeducational, college preparatory, boarding and day school. Wayland's mission: To prepare young people for a successful college experience and a rapidly changing world by opening their minds to the pursuit of knowledge and their hearts to the development of strong character.
Boarding Schools in Wyoming--
Mount Carmel Youth Ranch
Mount Carmel Youth Ranch, founded in 1992 and located on a 40,000 acre working cattle ranch in northwest Wyoming, is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping at-risk young men.
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