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Teenage daughter's behavior is getting worse...

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Mark, Thanks. A quick update -- I wrote four house rules and gave the paper to her (I'll add more rules later but thought I'd keep it simple for now). 1. Bedtime 11:00 pm. 2. Two hours limit on internet time, no computer after 10:00 pm. 3. No going off with friends without permission - no exceptions - and must obey curfew. 4. No seeing boyfriend without direct supervision. Not following the above entails 3 days grounding. Violating grounding entails additional consequences (which I didn't specify - in the long term I'm thinking of no drivers' license at 16 and no JROTC next year if her behavior doesn't change). What do you think? >>>>>>>>>>>>> I’m not sure the self-reliance concept is sinking in. Will withholding JROTC and a driver’s license foster the development of self-reliance or dependency? Answer: Dependency. Thus: Bad decision. >>>>>>>>>>> Just stick with the 3-day-di...

I'll commit suicide if I don't get my way... I swear I will.

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  Hi Mark, I downloaded your e-book last night, read the whole book and the first week's part twice, and I'm ready to implement these techniques. Right now, I hope it's not too late, because my daughter and I are in a crisis situation. I desperately need the help you're offering via OPS! Here's the situation (it's complicated). She just turned 15 year and, up until recently, she has been a good kid. She makes straight A's in school (and she takes gifted level and one AP class) except for math; however, I should have seen trouble coming when she became increasingly disrespectful and defiant - up till recently, her defiance has involved not going to bed when she should and refusing to get off the internet. She is sometimes up till 1 or 2 am, including on school nights. It's hard to say what my toughest parenting challenge is. Between her suicide threats, defiance, and yelling and cursing and recent drinking and sexual activity I don't kn...