Teenage daughter's behavior is getting worse...

Mark, Thanks. A quick update -- I wrote four house rules and gave the paper to her (I'll add more rules later but thought I'd keep it simple for now). 1. Bedtime 11:00 pm. 2. Two hours limit on internet time, no computer after 10:00 pm. 3. No going off with friends without permission - no exceptions - and must obey curfew. 4. No seeing boyfriend without direct supervision. Not following the above entails 3 days grounding. Violating grounding entails additional consequences (which I didn't specify - in the long term I'm thinking of no drivers' license at 16 and no JROTC next year if her behavior doesn't change). What do you think? >>>>>>>>>>>>> I’m not sure the self-reliance concept is sinking in. Will withholding JROTC and a driver’s license foster the development of self-reliance or dependency? Answer: Dependency. Thus: Bad decision. >>>>>>>>>>> Just stick with the 3-day-di...