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I need some advice on how to handle my ODD 16-year-old son. He's out of contol! He's been in and out of the mental wards -- and the latest is he assulted me. _____________________ Hi J., He sounds like a handful, just like all the other oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) teens and pre-teens I work with. Just last night (Monday), two of the mothers in attendance at my 'ODD Seminar' were in tears regarding problems at home. It's the same story I hear again and again: "My son... ...calls me a "bitch" ...uses the "F" word in nearly every sentence ...comes home when he wants ...leaves when he wants ...is failing at school ...is about to get kicked out of school ...has no appreciation for anything I do for him ...has threatened me ...refuses to follow any rules or do any chores ...steals, lies ...and so on." Rather than work with parents, I used to just work with the ODD kids who had recently been discharged from pla...

Hi Mark, We have had a major improvement at home for now. My Hubby went on a work training course about managing change in the workplace, and one thing he learnt regarding change in the workplace was not to just say, "this is what’s happening, now go do it." He was told to keep in regular contact with his employees. This made him/us realise what we said to our 11-year-old: "Don't like your attitude, don't like your behaviour, change it." But that would be it, we wouldn't do anything or say anything else -- then 3 weeks later we'd be saying the same thing. It was like a big circle that NEVER changed. So for the last 3 weeks we have been having a nightly meeting with our son. We bring a talking object (only the holder of the object may speak, and we put Josh in charge of what it was to be, so it changes daily), and we discuss the day. We have found this has had a huge impact with Joshua. He likes attention. So our meetings are when our littl...

Mark, I am still working on instilling assignment 1 into myself. I have caught myself many times arguing with my kids, but quickly caught myself. My fiancé (to be honest) is not the support network I was hoping for. We live together, and he is here with the kids while I am at work and he hasn't even picked up the your book that I printed out. I am unsure as to what to do. I have only really begun this today. I had to read it between working full time, a 19-month-old baby, 3 teenage boys, and a teenage daughter that isn't living at home any longer. I guess I am behind schedule. I apologize. I kept waiting for my fiancé to take the time to go over it with me. I wanted to make sure I could count on his support. I don't believe that I can count on him to support me or even take this new approach seriously. Can I make this work even though he is still living here and not taking this too seriously? C. _______________ Hi C., There have been instances where my wife...