R___ has now isolated herself in her room. She is not contacting friends. She insists that we have ruined / are ruining her life, and she will not talk to us.
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Re: R__ has now isolated herself in her room.
A child's bedroom is as much of a privilege as her bicycle. Thus, ground her FROM her room. The grounding can be immediately lifted as soon as she shows evidence that she will work on the behavior contract.
Children always have something that they value -- even if that "something" is to simply do "nothing."
Re: She is not contacting friends. She insists that we have ruined / are ruining her life, and as we said, she will not talk to us.
Allow her to have her mad-time. Pouting takes a lot of energy. She will eventually grow tired of this "game" (and it is a game -- a game called "I'll pout and hide in my room until I get my way").
Remind her that you love her, and that she has your permission to be upset.
Mark
My Out-of-Control Teen
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Re: R__ has now isolated herself in her room.
A child's bedroom is as much of a privilege as her bicycle. Thus, ground her FROM her room. The grounding can be immediately lifted as soon as she shows evidence that she will work on the behavior contract.
Children always have something that they value -- even if that "something" is to simply do "nothing."
Re: She is not contacting friends. She insists that we have ruined / are ruining her life, and as we said, she will not talk to us.
Allow her to have her mad-time. Pouting takes a lot of energy. She will eventually grow tired of this "game" (and it is a game -- a game called "I'll pout and hide in my room until I get my way").
Remind her that you love her, and that she has your permission to be upset.
Mark
My Out-of-Control Teen
