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We are really emotionally drained...

Hi E. & P., I’ve responded to your comments point by point below. Please look for these arrows: >>>>>>>>>>> Mark, I just had a conversation with our daughter last evening as she is going out and telling everyone that we do not support her in her future endeavor in sports. >>>>>>>>>>> I hear you saying that your daughter is mad because you are not on the same page with her regarding college (justifiably so). We pay for everything she does with sports, she has been on national development teams, we go to every game, every tournament, and we tell her what a great game she played. >>>>>>>>>>> You are paying for everything? What is she doing to “earn” these things? She seems to put herself on a higher pedestal than what she actually has. She has been cutting, suicidal, etc. >>>>>>>>>>> Please refer to the sectio...

Our 17-year-old son...

Hi M., I’ve responded to each of your points in turn below. Please look for these arrows: >>>>> Anyway, I would like to know if you could provide some guidance as to how to approach our current issues with our older 17-year-old son. He will be 18 in January. We have actually tried going to a psychologist last year with no real progress. To make matters worse he and his father do not have a good relationship because my son says he always picks on him. Actually, he has always tried to steer him in the right direction and on three previous occasions his father has been very supportive but obviously very upset with his behaviour. He has been living away from home since April with his girlfriend with several friends or girlfriends family with no positive outcomes. All have asked them to leave. They both have no jobs or money. They are involved in stealing whenever it is necessary. Both are using cannabis and alcohol. My son has actually physically abused girlfriend I ...

How do I avoid that circle fight?

Hi K., I responded to each of your questions in turn below. Please look for the arrows: >>>>>>>>>>>>> I have done a first 'read through' your ebook. It is very good and I can see that it is going to be very helpful. But I have a few first thoughts about ideas that weren't expanded enough for me. For example, in you session #3 assignment section you used an example of a child cleaning his room, however this is not an accurate example for me of how these conversations go. In our home: The parent notices the room is still a mess, says your example.... then the child responds "what's the matter with my room, it looks clean enough to me?".... where does the parent go from here. Because although I have shown my son the standard repeatedly, chores ALWAYS end up in a fight for this very reason - he refuses to do the job properly then gets angry and demands to know what the matter with the job he's done. Initi...