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At some point, you as a parent have probably been involved in a knock-down, drag-out argument with your defiant teenager. Each of you is convinced the other is wrong. Neither of you will back down. You've tried everything to get through to your son or daughter (e.g., ironclad logic, negotiating, yelling louder and longer), but neither side will budge. So, what can parents do when they find themselves in frequent verbal fights with their out-of-control teenagers? Here are 15 parenting tips to help resolve heated arguments with defiant teens: 1. Ask your teen if she would be willing to summarize your position. If she can't, or she hasn't heard it yet, ask if she would be willing to listen to what you have to say now. 2. Don't try to force your teen into admitting they he is wrong. That's the kind of tactic that keeps the argument burning. Genuine agreement will come, when and if it comes. It can't be forced. 3. Enlist the help of a mediator (e.g.,...

"I get so frustrated with my rebellious 13-year-old son - and often lose my temper! You can’t leave him alone for a minute without problems of some sort (won’t go into all that here though). Am I a bad mother? How can I avoid over-reacting like this? I know I'm throwing gas on the fire!!" Most moms lose their temper with their teens from time to time. It's OK to feel angry …just don’t take it out on your son. If you feel angry with your son almost every day or have trouble controlling your temper, get some help. There's no shame in that! Start by talking to your family doctor. Also, there are groups that can help moms, too. You can join our support group here: ==> My Out-of-Control Teen: Help for Parents When you get frustrated and upset, give yourself a break (rather than getting angry, and then feeling guilty for getting angry). Everyone needs a break from being a parent once in a while. If you have another adult in your family, take turns getting a...

Do you happen to use an “overindulgent” parenting style? If so, then you are probably experiencing a lot of behavioral problems with your teenager! What’s the connection between overindulgence and behavior problems you ask? In this post, we will answer this question in great detail… First of all, do you notice any of the following characteristics in your teen? Asks for help on a task she should be able to do on her own Can be obnoxious and temperamental Constantly engages in whining and complaining Demands things all the time Exhibits extreme clinginess or the inability to be alone Fails to bounce back from normal adolescent disappointments Has little concern for the welfare of others Ignores or negotiates every request you make Is self-centered Is verbally and/or physically aggressive Is very manipulative Lacks motivation Repeatedly asks for rewards or money for basic chores  Shows little gratitude for what she has Wants to control the decisions of other famil...