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How To Ground?

I have a question about grounding. Lets say I ground Dylan from his ps2 for 3 days for being sent to alternative school. So I take the controllers and he continues to act out and mouth off (because its BS he cant use his ps2 cause he did NOTHING wrong-naturally). I can restart the 3 days for each time he acts out but truly we would be up to 45days of no ps2 before the first 3 days is even up. Dylan accepts no punishment generally. Because well he has never done anything wrong and everyone is out to get him. So in reference to earning his way out do I say well you re up to 45 days of no ps2 because of your actions and your mouthing off but if you will talk to me and your teachers with respect for the next 3 days you will earn your ps2 back in 3 days?

I dont get it but I want to. Because "I" could never survive the 45 days of grounded and he knows it. Its not realistic and I feel like the lesson of you cant yell and cuss at the teacher is so far off from where it started and about a ps2 struggle now. So lets say ok he is good for 3 days- earns his ps2 back did he learn not to misbehave at school and not get sent to alternative school or did he learn he can act as horrible as he possibly and do whatever he wants and then "act" sweet for 3 days and its all over?

I am truly trying to grasp all of this because I have no idea. I am the poster child of the passive parent so discipline in NOT my gig at all and its very hard me. But I am trying ! I am on page 29 of the ebook and want a clear understanding of how that works before I move on.


Thanks -

S.

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Hi S.,

This is covered in Session #2 <== click.

Be sure to read "How Do You Eat An Elephant" [located near the bottom of the page].

Mark

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