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"I've tried everything -- counseling, taking away privileges, grounding -- and nothing works with this child!" When parents have finally had enough disrespect and behavior problems with their child, they come to my office to file an incorrigibility charge   (i.e., a legal complaint due to the child being unruly and delinquent in the home). At this point I ask the parent, "Would you be willing to try something else first before we consider filing the charge."  And most parents agree they would rather not involve their child in the "juvenile justice system" unless they absolutely have to. So I get the parent involved in my parent-program called Parent-Teen Support Group . In this group, which meets 90 minutes each session for 4 sessions, we look at a set of highly effective unconventional parenting strategies to use with their strong-willed, out-of-control unconventional child . I follow up with these parents weeks and months after they com...

What to do when your child: Abuses alcohol Abuses drugs Applies guilt trips Applies insults Argues with adults Believes the rules don't apply to him/her Blames others for his/her behavior Blames others for his/her problems Calls you terrible names (e.g., "f___ing bitch") Deliberately annoys people Destroys property in the house Does not feel responsible for his/her actions Does not take “no” for an answer Engages in self-injury or cutting Feels entitled to privileges Gets caught shoplifting Gets into trouble with the law Gets suspended or expelled from school Has a learning disability (e.g., ADHD) Has an eating disorder Has been sexually abused Has frequent anger outbursts Has problems with authority figures Has problems with siblings Is a bully at school or in the neighborhood Is depressed Is failing academically Is getting into trouble on the Internet Is grieving the loss of a family member or friend Is hanging with the wrong crowd Is hav...

Throughout adolescence, your teenager will be confronted with many difficult circumstances where choosing to make a safe and healthy choice may not be the easiest or most obvious thing to do. Peer-pressure may factor heavily into the choice-making process regarding numerous serious issues (e.g., drinking alcohol at parties, trying drugs, having sex, joining gangs, etc.). It’s normal for adolescents to challenge their moms and dads' values and beliefs as a way to “test the system” and seek autonomy. Adolescents need support and “guidance” from their moms and dads to make important choices about their future. However, the more “controlling” you are, the more rebellious your adolescent is likely to become. As a mother or father, being present to protect your adolescent from circumstances that could potentially hurt him will always be an intense urge that often can’t be realistically fulfilled. As your teenager grows older, parenting becomes less about control and more abo...