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"Is it normal for parents to experience a lot of depression as they deal with their oppositional defiant teenagers? My daughter's behavior is negatively affecting both my work and my marriage now. I feel like such a failure as a parent." Yes... absolutely!   ==> My Out-of-Control Teen: Help for Parents Here are some of the other feelings and thoughts that occur when parents have to live with a strong-willed, out of control teenager: Ambivalence toward the defiant child (“I love her, but when her mindset causes her to be cruel, I also wish she'd go away.”) Anger and jealousy (“Her siblings resent all the attention I have to give her.”) Anxiety (“I’m afraid to leave her alone or hurt her feelings.”) Bitterness (“Why did this happen to us?”) Blaming self and each other (“If only I had been a better parent... If you would only listen...”) Concern for the future (“What's going to happen after I’m gone? Who will take care of her?) Denial of the...

"I’m raising my grandson who was suspended from school (year 8) for the past week for swearing at a teacher. He was told that he would get 2 weeks next time. He now has the attitude that if I send him back to school he will see to it that he is sent home again and again. I did do the 3 days behaviour in his room and I do notice that he is getting bored, but he seems to have the attitude that boredom is better then school. So now what?!" Click here for my response...

My daughter's status right now is - Grounded during the week until school is over (she was gone every night before). She does have her weekends. Question: How should I go about implementing the 3 day discipline. Should I explain to her what the 3 day plan is?? >>>>>>>>>>>1. Clearly state your expectation. For example... "Be sure to wash the dishes." "It's time for you to get the trash out." "I need you to pick up your dirty laundry." 2. If your child does what she is told to do, reward her with acknowledgment and praise. "You did a great job of doing the dishes." "Thank you for getting to bed on time." "I appreciate that you picked up your dirty clothes." Note: "Rewards" such as hugs, kisses, and high-fives increase your children's motivation to do what you ask them to do. 3. If your child refuses or ignores your request, then...