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Mark, I have been working on the program from you, although I am only in my second week. We had our Staffing Meeting today to determine placement for D. My husband and I tried to plead our case to the man who will make the recommendation to the court on Tuesday (22nd). Of course he recommended a Level 6 program for 6-9 months. Our son has not been a threat to society before or during probation and we tried to make the man understand that. We shared the strides D has made, but like any teenager he has made some mistakes. We know D has a long way to go and we want to be there for him to help. Do you know any web pages I can go on to support what we believe, D will not benefit from a Level 6 program? In advance, thanks for any advise you may be able to provide. R. `````````````````````` Hi R., I'm not familiar with a "Level 6" program. Are you referring to the Department of Corrections -- or a juvenile treatment facility? Mark `````````````````````` The recommendation ...

I have just completed your 4 weeks programme and trying very hard to implement all the suggestions. I wish we had come across this several months ago. We seemed to have a happy peaceful family before Christmas, but since then things fell apart. I realise now that we have indulged our two children and that my daughter especially is used to getting her own way. My 15 year old daughter was secretly seeing a very unsuitable man of 20. She managed to see him for about 2 months before we realised. Once we found out about it, we sat down as a family and discussed it and asked her not to see him because we felt he was too old and not from our part of town, he also has a GBH tag (Has been in trouble for fighting). At first she seemed to go along with it but one day my husband found them together in bed at our home during school time. Discussions, leading to rages followed, and again asked her not to see him. The pressure built up at home and one day she ran away for a night. The police were c...

Hello, I am T___. A colleague has highly recommended your course I was wondering if you could give me some advice on how to start. Although I feel my teen is becoming out of control I am feeling out of control myself. This morning I had a meltdown screaming at her and swearing, I am so angry with myself and I know I did more damage than good, I need to learn myself how to control how I react, I am going to sign up for the course but am wondering if I might need to counselled myself or maybe together with my daughter. Regards, T. ````````````````````````````` Hi T., Re: ... I might need to counseled myself. You will find a bunch of "parent's anger management" suggestions throughout the eBook. You've come to the right place! Mark Online Parent Support

Hi Mark How do I handle my son's way of talking to me? I mean he never talks nice. It is “get me this” …and “do this.” He is 14 almost 15. He says to me that he is a teenager and that I don't understand what a teenager goes through. Little does he realize, that I have been there too!! Example: He ask me to buy him a xbox 360 yesterday and I answer him no because all he want everyday is to buy games, or whatever. And he does nothing around the house, and I mean nothing, Garbage, blue box putting his clothes away is all we ask, and he does nothing so I am fed up and I don't feel he deserves anything as he does nothing. Finally after seeing his clothes still in the basket in his room after 3 days I get pissed off and tell my husband to get on his case, But when I do that my husband has a fit and tells me that I cannot control MY KIDS, (his kids too.) Anyway my son will then do it as my husband tells him to do it. Anyway getting back to how he speaks to me. He said tom...

I am considering buying your book but I would like more explanation on your “unconventional” techniques. I have read many books, and some seem to help for a little while and then something new comes up that I don’t know how to deal with. She is a child to walk up to the line and go over it once, but then seems to keep going right up to the line, but not quite crossing it, over and over. Thanks for your time, W. ```````````````````` Hi W., All I mean by "unconventional" is that some of the techniques in the eBook are also used by therapists and psychologists to build a "therapeutic alliance" with their clients. In this case, you will be using the techniques to build an alliance - or bond - with your child. Mark My Out-of-Control Teen

Hi Mark, I am a Elementary school teacher (3rd. grade) who is doing their homework in the preparation of receiving next school year a little girl who exhibits all the classic symptoms of ODD. (I will forward your information about your book on to her parents and try to help them as best I can.) My main purpose for writing you is to get ideas that I can use in the classroom for behavior management of this disorder. (My guess is that this little girl will be placed in the SBH unit one day or given home instruction.) I want to begin the year prepared and having a plan in place. I hope to meet with her adoptive parents before the year begins and get them on-board with working with me. Is there anything you would suggest in planning to deal with her behavior? Any good resources out there that may be of help with the behavior management end of it? I would appreciate any advise you can give. Thanks, Mitch Burton ````````````````````` Hi Mitch, You may want to consider downloading the eBook. ...

I checked with our lawyer if I charge C__ with theft he would go to a group home. Would he not be exposed to more criminal active and get more tools to the trade? what are your thoughts? Tonight he took off on me tonight, I used the steps and took his cell phone and computer and he demanded his computer from me. I said the 'no" once and I am not arguing etc. He said he was going out I said he was grounded and if he left I would start the grounding all over again etc. He took some clothes with him. He told me that he is very mad and wants to punch people out etc. who ever is talking about him, I had told him that I received a call from a parent that is concerned about him hanging with the wrong group and that he is doing things that he should not be doing. He said a list of the adults that he would not do anything to. I was a little scared and he said he thought the computer is in the car and that he wanted the keys but he did not touch me. He said he likes smoking...

Hi S., I’ve responded throughout your email below: Dear Mark - I just signed onto your program last week and have a situation going on that I just do not know what to do. I have a 14 year old girl using drugs and on the run most of the time. == > First of all, don't threaten her. Avoid the temptation to say things like, "If you walk out that door, I'm calling the cops" or "If you leave, you're grounded for a month." or "Fine, go ahead and run ...I'll pack your shit and you can go live with your dad." Instead say, "You know that I can't control you -- and if you really want to run away from home, I can't stop you. I can't watch you 24 hours a day, and I can’t lock you up in your room. But no one in the world loves you the way I do. That is why we have established some house rules. Running away from home will not solve any problems. You and I know it will only make matters worse." If your dau...

Hi Mark Well I did not skip to lesson #3 I am just hanging on! I told C___ issue lesson #1 tips on what I needed him to do etc. not using the you and steps in lesson #1 and everything the first night it worked. He was even home earlier then curfew agreed upon. Last night I used the same technique and he said I told you that he was staying out all night some where. I said I expected him home etc. He said the was saying at M___'s house and he was out with some other friends etc. and that Mark was leaving the door open for him. This morning I phoned over to M___'s house and he did not stay there the mother checked the house. I called his cell phone and he said he stayed at some girl's house and would be home later. I called another friend of his and he said he was out with the drug seller in our neighbourhood last night as well. This girl he was with also does drugs. His friend said he is smoking pot and doing mushrooms as well. Today he came back home and is sleep...

Mark, Life goes by one day at a time. M_____ has racked up quite a debt. Most of these are bills that had to be paid (IE. court ordered "anger management class", secretary of state fee, repair of house damage etc) which Mom/Dad have paid and that he is required to pay back (and knows this and has accepted this and does have a job). His paycheck is direct deposited to an account over which he has no control. My dilemma is how much should he get for spending each week. Summer is (unfortunately) a slow time at his job and he may only take home $50 each week. Earlier we had told him he could have 1/3 of his pay each week for spending (additional 1/3 for saving, and 1/3 for a larger parent approved purchase). He is demanding the 1/3 but we (parents) feel this should be omitted/decreased due to the sizable debt. He also had his license taken away for 2 months so he is not using gas--but maybe is paying friends? Now I find $65 in his wallet (have only given him $20 in p...

HI Mark, Thank you so much for your answer. I did tell my daughter that I would be truthful from the beginning. I guess I'm fearful at times because of her psychiatric diagnosis. She is what Dr. Greene calls inflexible-explosive, plus Adhd and mood issues. I questioned the counselors to see if there is any evidence of personality disorder. They seem not to think so, but I'm not so sure. She has been tested by a neuro-psych doctor. But nothing more came of it except for a 504 accomodation plan, which was very much needed. If she does have some measure of a borderline personality disorder, I can still apply all the parenting techniques in your e-book, correct? She is intensely self-centered and doesn't seem to "get it". I know self-centeredness is common in teens but with her it is much more so, also, she is nice to everyone except family members. I took the test and I failed with flying colors! The result was I was a severely indulgent ...

It's been awhile since my first e-mail. I've been trying to follow your information in your manual. Have started to reread the book to refresh myself with some of the instructions on how to control my son. He has still not gotten the picture that he has a problem that needs to be addressed, and worked on. He believes that everyone else is the problem and that no matter what he tries he is wrong. He'll take no advice or be willing to even learn from his own mistakes, which hurt him and then he complains that no one understands him, and won't help. My son is now 20 (21 november) he was/ is diagnosed with adhd ODD pdd. now refusing to take his meds. his own research shows side effects, this scares him, thats why he refuses. Question? thru your many studies and other parents that you have talked to, have you ever found that a child has over the years developed a symptom of paranoia, with anxiety attacks. and has become a habitual liar? he now breaks out with the terrible s...