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Hi Mark, I am half way through reading the ebook. As I have read many books of this nature, it is always a good reminder. While being an assertive parent already {although I realise I can brush up on my skills}, my latest challenge comes with many complexities. My 15 year old daughter has had many different diagnosies from mild aspergers to borderline personality disorder, the latter being the most appropriate. While I have been relatively successful with my power of influence I am having great difficulty in keeping her in at night as alcohol is her latest passion. She was involved or maybe I should say instigated an alcohol-induced decision to have a party at my parent’s house. This involved a lot of damage to the house and my fathers brand new Jaguar. So as you can imagine this did not go over too well. She has suffered the consequences, which was an apology, loss of her allowance for 10 weeks and no internet access. I know she felt very remorseful but her guilt led her t...

My daughter is 15 and very mean to me in the home. I am the disciplinarian, single parent. She is involved in youth group and very spiritual outside the home. We went to counseling with our paster but she still behaves badly with me. (I was just called an idiot by the way because I am typing to loud.) Is it "ok" to ground her for periods of time from youth group? It is her only activity. B. ----------------------- Absolutely! Youth group attendance is a privilege, not a right. www.MyOutOfControlTeen.com

Hi Ann, >>>>>>>>>>>>> I’ve commented below. Our 15 (almost 16 year old) son went to a friend’s house last night for a party. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Did he “earn” this privilege? If so, how? The parents were home ...the grandmother was there ...they assured me that they would have a close eye on the kids and when I picked him up this morning them other assured me that they were all good. I know the boy whose house the party was at is wild and know that he bragged about having alcohol there. I picked my son up and he seemed fine. I have software that allows me to monitor his conversations online. Others are typing him about his "condition" last night and he is bragging about not knowing what he was doing and typed that he was "hoaking" (may be a typo but wondering if this slang word means anything to you?!!?!) I don’t know now what to do? >>>>>>>>>>>>>...

HELP! We just recently began your program (1 wk ago or so). It is working well with our 15 year old son, not so great with the 17 year old. The older son is definitely our strong willed child who seems to fit the 'class clown' scenario well. Here's the issue. The older son.... He is on internet school. His car privileges had already been previously suspended (pending his retaining a job to pay for his own insurance, gas, repairs etc - he was abusing our giving natures) so we grounded him for 3 days for an 'infraction'. My husband typically works from home so he is able to 'monitor' the older sons activities (which also was a bit of a issue as the older son would just about work my husband to death emoting and arguing). This week however my husband is working away from the house. The older son chose to leave the house on Sunday (his last day of grounding). He came home after we were already in bed and then chose again to leave the house for the entir...

Help Mark, I just intercepted an email of my son’s where he's asking people if they want to buy pot from him. WHAT DO I DO TO STOP HIM? ```````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````````` If your son's potential drug use / drug dealing has been purely recreational, you may only need to clearly state your position regarding abstinence and then closely monitor his behavior. If your son is more deeply into substance abuse, seek the advice of a behavioral health or substance abuse professional. Click here for more info... Mark

Mark ...C.S. here. I thought your website was a scam when I read that you were only charging people 19 bucks for your ebook, plus audio, plus video, plus power points, plus access to you for coaching, plus a bunch of bonus parenting ebooks, and so on. I even called you to make sure you were for real ...remember? Well anyway, thank God this Online Parent Support is for real, and thank you for providing so much for so little. But I have to ask: Why do you only charge $19.99 for this ...I think you are under-estimating the value of what you offer. C.S. ---------------------------- Hi C.S., I get asked this a lot. But here's the deal: $19.99 is not a whole lot of money to most people in the U.S. But at least 50% of parents who join Online Parent Support live elsewhere (e.g., AU, CA, IE, NZ, UK, ZA, etc.) and would simply not be able to afford the ebook if it were over 20 bucks. Too many cannot afford it at $19.99 (in which case, I turn the parent onto Online Parent Supp...

Mark Hutten, M.A. received his Master's Degree in Counseling Psychology from Norwich University. He works for: · Madison County Juvenile Probation · Madison County Correctional Complex · The Community Justice Center · The Indiana Juvenile Justice Task Force · Sowers of Seeds Counseling Mark performs home-based counseling for families experiencing difficulty with their child's emotional and behavioral problems, and conducts the following group therapies for court-ordered individuals (although many volunteer): · Parent Education Training · Anger Management Group · Relapse Prevention Group · Drug/Alcohol Workshop · Sex Offender Group Mark is the creator of the Parent-Teen Support Group (a "parents only" group for parents with ‘out of control’ teenagers), the author of ‘My Out-of-Control Teen’ eBook, and the founder of Online Parent Support. Mark began counseling teens and pre-teens in 1988. All of his current adolescent clients are on probation/parol...

If you would finally like to: 1. Have some peace in your house again (remember what that was like?) 2. Not argue every minute of every day with your kid 3. Feel that what you do for him/her is actually appreciated 4. Stop the disrespect and verbal abuse 5. Know how to deal with problems such as disrespect, lying, stealing, truancy, and drug abuse without having to call the police to have your kid locked-up (if this hasn’t happened already!) ...then this might be the most important website you’ll ever visit: www.MyOutOfControlTeen.com

"The main problem I have with my son Ryan is his behaviour in school, from all accounts, is disruptive in class, has got into fights in school, has been suspended on a number of occasions for smoking, being very argumentative with teachers, skipping off school, porn mags …turns up to school with no books, no homework. When we sit down to talk about these things, he sits in front of me and either cry's or just says "I don't know" or there's a big story that the teacher was all wrong or it was some one else and no one believes him. I have punished him e.g.: grounded him, taken his cell for weeks on end, Ryan has always been giddy and is very easily detracted, I feel at times he just doesn't know how to change things around at school and they are so sick of him they have given up. At 15 he is 6 f 6". Lets on he is full of confidence, but at home he is kind, affectionate, very witty and would do anything for you, he has a part time job workin...

Dear Mr. Hutten, I am writing to ask for some advise. I should also mention that i visit your site regularly and think it is great. My daughter is 14 and has ADD, which encompasses a lot of challenges in itself. My biggest problem with her is her lack of interest in school work, goals or motivation. It's a struggle just to get her up and going every day, and even though i succeed most times, she doesn't do anything in school except socialize and roam around. She will not study, always says she doesn't have any homework until the last minute sometimes and then expects me to race around getting her supplies or letting her use the computer to throw her project together. I have tried grounding her but she doesn’t seem to care...we live a few miles out of town so she doesn't get to go many places anyway. I don’t let her use the computer very much to try and make her earn its use, and i don’t give her an allowance because she rarely does what's expected of her in ...

I purchased your online book: My out of control teen. My 14 yr old son has ADHD, ODD, has terrible tantrums, but mostly with his stepfather. He physically hits him. It doesn't hurt him as he is 300 lbs & my son is 105 lbs but we are becoming concerned with the violence. When his stepdad tries to restrain him he yells quite loudly "ow, you're hurting me" so everyone in public will hear. He has yet to physically harm me, but his stepdad has told him bad things will happen if he hurts me. His father also has an anger problem (verbal), but he seldom seem\s him, but that doesn’t mean the past hasn’t rubbed off on him. I have been divorced from his father for 7 yrs. We do have him in counseling right now for his anger, but it doesn't seem to be helping. He is also adopted so I don’t know much about his past, but his Dr’s all seem to think he was probably a drug or alcohol baby. He is getting into a lot of trouble at school, but mostly for acting out verbally. His gr...

Hi, We are facing some challenging times ahead and I would like some advice on how to handle this with our 16 year old son. We moved to the town we are in now in the U.S. about 2.5 years ago from Canada. At the time our son had just started Grade 9. We had some rough times with him refusing to do school work, not caring about school and just being very angry. Things had just turned around with him recently when his Dad's company decided to close down without much warning. His Dad won't have any trouble finding a new job but we likely will need to move again. As you can imagine, this prospect is not going over well with our son. He is saying he wants to stay here to finish high school. Unfortunately with his past academic efforts or lack of them, he isn't doing great at school. He is in his Junior year but he is a few credits shy of graduating on schedule as he has failed a couple of semesters in 2 courses. Also, he does not have a job and he isn't driving. How do w...