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Both my husband and I have read your eBook. However, he is still wanting to over-indulge our daughter. What can I do?





Hi C.,

It will be very important for you and your husband to be united and bonded on most issues. A weaker plan supported by the both parents is much better than a stronger plan support by only one parent.


The two of you must set aside your differences as partners and resolve to work together as parents in the best interest of your child. This is difficult, but not impossible to do.

You will continue to disagree – and that's O.K. But agree that you will not let your own differences interfere with your ability to parent together. Argue only when your child is not within earshot.

Make important decisions about your child together. Sit down with your husband and create rules that your child must follow, but that the two of you agree on.

Also, learn to let go a little and accept that the situation cannot be perfect.

Try to schedule talks with your husband at times when you are both relaxed and can concentrate. It is much easier this way.

Finally, put your plan in writing. For example: "As parents, we agree to allow our daughter to do a, b, and c. And we will mutually impose a consequence for x, y, and z. The consequence for x is ___________, for y is ______________, and for z is ______________."

I hope this make sense. Give it a try. Let me know how this works for you all.

Please stay in touch,

Mark

http://www.myoutofcontrolteen.com/sl

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