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Would he not be exposed to more criminal active and get more tools to the trade?

I checked with our lawyer if I charge C__ with theft he would go to a group home. Would he not be exposed to more criminal active and get more tools to the trade?
what are your thoughts?

Tonight he took off on me tonight, I used the steps and took his cell phone and computer and he demanded his computer from me. I said the 'no" once and I am not arguing etc. He said he was going out I said he was grounded and if he left I would start the grounding all over again etc. He took some clothes with him. He told me that he is very mad and wants to punch people out etc. who ever is talking about him, I had told him that I received a call from a parent that is concerned about him hanging with the wrong group and that he is doing things that he should not be doing. He said a list of the adults that he would not do anything to.

I was a little scared and he said he thought the computer is in the car and that he wanted the keys but he did not touch me. He said he likes smoking pot and he said i want to show you something then showed me the bong and told me that it is not his and I said that is what every body says that it's not theirs. I said this with no anger and my poker face. I said I would have to call the police if he is running away and he said that he can out smart the police that when the doorbell rings he is gone.

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Hi A.,

Re: I checked with our lawyer if I charge Chris with theft he would go to a group home.

With all due respect to your lawyer, I think he gave you some misinformation. Assuming this would be your son's first encounter with the juvenile justice system, he would probably receive what is called an "Informal Adjustment." I don't have time to explain that now. Call your local juvenile probation dept. and pick their brain on this.

Re: Would he not be exposed to more criminal active and get more tools to the trade?

As I stated earlier, it is highly unlikely that he would be going to some group home. Judges DON'T "sentence" first-time offenders to "placement."

Mark

My Out-of-Control Teen

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