He chose to steal 2 games from the local Kmart...

Dear Mark,

Thank you for the great e-mails. I have a 16 year old, out of control son, that was diagnosed with ODD in September. I had him attend counseling after a series of bad grades in school. He chose to steal 2 games from the local Kmart, refuses to do his homework, refuses to go to bed at night & get up in the morning, and wanders the halls in school.

He then in September was expelled for a week from school after he took 2 Ipods from one locker & put them into another. The boy's parents pressed charges & we went to court. He was put on probation for 6 months, has community service, is required to keep his grades up, and wrote an apology letter to the person from which he stole. You would think he would feel some sort of remorse? He sees this as a thorn in his side. Even the class on theft that he will be attending doesn't seem like it is going to make him think. It's like he has no fear.

The only things that are important to him are playing his guitar, talking on the phone and being on the computer. Surprise, surprise, I know...he's a teenager. But the thing is he used to be a straight A student, attended Math Masters in the State of MN, and was an academic All star. Skinny legged-girls jeans, dying his hair, and piercings along with MySpace has now taken the place of these other things. He only does what he has to so he doesn't fail in school, and it seems to be getting worse.

I went through a divorce 6 years ago, but all of this is just in the last 12 months. I don't know how to help him anymore. I don't want him to mess up the last 2 1/2 years that he has left in school and want desperately for him to go back to being that compassionate young man that he used to be...please help.

Thank you,



Hi K.,

I've summarized the problems here:


--bad grades


--doesn't do homework

--sleep problems

--skips class

--legal problems

--unable to empathize

All of this is covered in my eBook. Have you read it yet? If not, please do. Then please email me with a specific question. To address all the above problems in one email will take hours to address properly. Please don't wait any longer to address these problems, because it WILL continue to get worse -- and you have a lot on your plate at this point.

Thank you,



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