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Our son has not been a threat to society before or during probation...

Mark, I have been working on the program from you, although I am only in my second week. We had our Staffing Meeting today to determine placement for D. My husband and I tried to plead our case to the man who will make the recommendation to the court on Tuesday (22nd). Of course he recommended a Level 6 program for 6-9 months. Our son has not been a threat to society before or during probation and we tried to make the man understand that. We shared the strides D has made, but like any teenager he has made some mistakes. We know D has a long way to go and we want to be there for him to help. Do you know any web pages I can go on to support what we believe, D will not benefit from a Level 6 program? In advance, thanks for any advise you may be able to provide. R. `````````````````````` Hi R., I'm not familiar with a "Level 6" program. Are you referring to the Department of Corrections -- or a juvenile treatment facility? Mark `````````````````````` The recommendation ...

My 15 year old daughter was secretly seeing a very unsuitable man of 20...

I have just completed your 4 weeks programme and trying very hard to implement all the suggestions. I wish we had come across this several months ago. We seemed to have a happy peaceful family before Christmas, but since then things fell apart. I realise now that we have indulged our two children and that my daughter especially is used to getting her own way. My 15 year old daughter was secretly seeing a very unsuitable man of 20. She managed to see him for about 2 months before we realised. Once we found out about it, we sat down as a family and discussed it and asked her not to see him because we felt he was too old and not from our part of town, he also has a GBH tag (Has been in trouble for fighting). At first she seemed to go along with it but one day my husband found them together in bed at our home during school time. Discussions, leading to rages followed, and again asked her not to see him. The pressure built up at home and one day she ran away for a night. The police were c...

I had a meltdown screaming at her and swearing...

Hello, I am T___. A colleague has highly recommended your course I was wondering if you could give me some advice on how to start. Although I feel my teen is becoming out of control I am feeling out of control myself. This morning I had a meltdown screaming at her and swearing, I am so angry with myself and I know I did more damage than good, I need to learn myself how to control how I react, I am going to sign up for the course but am wondering if I might need to counselled myself or maybe together with my daughter. Regards, T. ````````````````````````````` Hi T., Re: ... I might need to counseled myself. You will find a bunch of "parent's anger management" suggestions throughout the eBook. You've come to the right place! Mark Online Parent Support

How do I handle my son's way of talking to me?

Hi Mark How do I handle my son's way of talking to me? I mean he never talks nice. It is “get me this” …and “do this.” He is 14 almost 15. He says to me that he is a teenager and that I don't understand what a teenager goes through. Little does he realize, that I have been there too!! Example: He ask me to buy him a xbox 360 yesterday and I answer him no because all he want everyday is to buy games, or whatever. And he does nothing around the house, and I mean nothing, Garbage, blue box putting his clothes away is all we ask, and he does nothing so I am fed up and I don't feel he deserves anything as he does nothing. Finally after seeing his clothes still in the basket in his room after 3 days I get pissed off and tell my husband to get on his case, But when I do that my husband has a fit and tells me that I cannot control MY KIDS, (his kids too.) Anyway my son will then do it as my husband tells him to do it. Anyway getting back to how he speaks to me. He said tom...

She is a child to walk up to the line and go over it once...

I am considering buying your book but I would like more explanation on your “unconventional” techniques. I have read many books, and some seem to help for a little while and then something new comes up that I don’t know how to deal with. She is a child to walk up to the line and go over it once, but then seems to keep going right up to the line, but not quite crossing it, over and over. Thanks for your time, W. ```````````````````` Hi W., All I mean by "unconventional" is that some of the techniques in the eBook are also used by therapists and psychologists to build a "therapeutic alliance" with their clients. In this case, you will be using the techniques to build an alliance - or bond - with your child. Mark My Out-of-Control Teen

Any good resources out there that may be of help with the behavior management end of it?

Hi Mark, I am a Elementary school teacher (3rd. grade) who is doing their homework in the preparation of receiving next school year a little girl who exhibits all the classic symptoms of ODD. (I will forward your information about your book on to her parents and try to help them as best I can.) My main purpose for writing you is to get ideas that I can use in the classroom for behavior management of this disorder. (My guess is that this little girl will be placed in the SBH unit one day or given home instruction.) I want to begin the year prepared and having a plan in place. I hope to meet with her adoptive parents before the year begins and get them on-board with working with me. Is there anything you would suggest in planning to deal with her behavior? Any good resources out there that may be of help with the behavior management end of it? I would appreciate any advise you can give. Thanks, Mitch Burton ````````````````````` Hi Mitch, You may want to consider downloading the eBook. ...

Would he not be exposed to more criminal active and get more tools to the trade?

I checked with our lawyer if I charge C__ with theft he would go to a group home. Would he not be exposed to more criminal active and get more tools to the trade? what are your thoughts? Tonight he took off on me tonight, I used the steps and took his cell phone and computer and he demanded his computer from me. I said the 'no" once and I am not arguing etc. He said he was going out I said he was grounded and if he left I would start the grounding all over again etc. He took some clothes with him. He told me that he is very mad and wants to punch people out etc. who ever is talking about him, I had told him that I received a call from a parent that is concerned about him hanging with the wrong group and that he is doing things that he should not be doing. He said a list of the adults that he would not do anything to. I was a little scared and he said he thought the computer is in the car and that he wanted the keys but he did not touch me. He said he likes smoking...